Is boarding school a real solution to impart discipline?

A good day school is as expensive as a good boarding school, some of them even more. The high-end public schools are extremely pricey, and well out of the reach of most folk so we won't discuss those. I went to one, but the annual fees alone are in lakhs, plus hostel and all additional expenses means you're staring at a bill of 10-12 lakhs a year, at the low end. In my time it was lower, so I managed to get out without putting my folks in the poorhouse.

As for schooling kids, when you have yours, ask around and look at how you want them to be brought up. And then take a call. I don't have the answers for you, you'll have to find them yourself. This is a very personal and individual decision, and before you're a parent yourself, you're going to only find arguments for and against, when in reality the nature of the decision is very different. The answers aren't in logic, parenting is about intuition. You'll understand when you have kids, or when you're old enough to be a dad. Whatever you decide then, will be the best for your child, if you follow your gut. That's about it.
 
cranky said:
Your attitude - opinionated, arrogant, stereotypical and unidimensional -for one. We can see a mollycoddled homie when we see one. Consider all you said here

Aww...you know its all true. 2 hours of TV a week does that to you too. No wonder you kept your username what you kept it. I actually feel sorry for you.

Brilliant one, by the way, we can see you've been so well brought up. Maybe Mom gave you specific permission?

I don't need her permission to watch porn, nor do I need her permission to make a girlfriend, or hang out with my friends till late at night. I don't need her permission to get in fights (for good reasons), I don't need her permission to make my own time-table of the day with late sleeping times. I don't need her permission to make random hang-out scenes with my friends to the movies. And A LOT more.

The kind of life you missed out on, I see what it does to people now.
You can stuff that up your ass

Well at least you learned to say ass in here.

- see, I can be nasty too, not just cranky.

But you'll always be a cranky at heart..don't try to change, xD

This is bordering on one, and it's obvious your mother never taught you how to behave in public and talk to other people.

Is that why I was always the center of the attraction in my high school? Respected by both teachers and the students? Is that why I have friends nearly everywhere I go? I mean someone who doesn't know how to talk good shouldn't be getting all that now right?
Your statements reek of exactly the problem I've been talking of. There is no point in continuing this conversation - they are among the worst example of opinion.

Do you say that to every person you meet who starts feeling sorry for you, like me? Yeah I bet you do, I bet you get a lot of it..too.

Your view of the world is defined by your experiences. It doesn't mean that it is the only right view.

Never said I'm right in everything.

If you continue to behave like this, you'll have serious emotional problems - it seems you already have many

So far, dude, you're acting like the emo guy.
going by the angst in your tone and your sense of self-righteousness.

I meant most of it as a joke (and my opinion too, though, I do admit I sounded cocky), I see it clearly offended you, and for that I apologize.
 
Guys can we cut this crap?

Pretty please?

Can we leave our mothers out of this too??

@OP:- Its proven that most here havent grown up yet, please go and consult a child psychologist if you're concerned abt the child, Im sure a child psychologist will be be much better help than people arguing here ..:(
 
LOL,

stop getting personal boys

..you aren't doing any side a favor

My personal take?

A kid would turn out fine either ways

Although you have a greater probability of

a) The fella turning out a total wimp/wuss if he stayed tied to Mama dearest all his living life..the kind of guy who'd fink out just when you thought you can start trusting him

b) An unruly rowdy with no/limited personal family ties if he was packed off to a boarding school right after he was weaned off

Of course, You have exceptions either ways, and many people in both camps turn out to be fine men anyway

Although personally, I think I'd trust a guy who grew up as a boarder with my life in a sticky situation over a day school kid, Ceteris Paribus

just for the record, I moved to a boarding school (and have been living away from my folks ever since due to studies, and later work ) from 7th grade
 
Is that why I was always the center of the attraction in my high school? Respected by both teachers and the students? Is that why I have friends nearly everywhere I go? I mean someone who doesn't know how to talk good shouldn't be getting all that now right?

:rofl: Boastful, arrogant and childish! :rofl:

And you need to stop talking about my

All right, I apologise for that comment. And have edited my post suitably....

just because yours
And hope you have the courtesy to do likewise.

I don't see this discussion continuing fruitfully, as I can see nothing except an attempt to flamebait and attack using provocative comments (both sides). I have no rebuttal to your post, seeing that it is only directed towards me and has nothing to do with the OP, except opinionated and narrow-minded stereotypes, as well as personal attacks. Once you are able to refrain from inflammatory remarks and snide comments, we can call this off in a civil manner. I suspect, going by your general attitude, that you will not, but I'd still be willing to stand corrected.

Anyway, your call.
 
superczar said:
Although personally, I think I'd trust a guy who grew up as a boarder with my life in a sticky situation over a day school kid, Ceteris Paribus
That's only because you went to boarding school yourself.
 
^^Nah, it's because most boarding guys have only their friends network to fall back on. They have this one for all, all for one thingy.

As an individual, I am what I am ( and I like this state :) ) because I was in a boarding since when I was 4 to my mid teens. I'm very, very independent, I don't have to pay lip service to family gatherings, my opinions are respected in family gatherings even by ppl much older and better well off than me etc. etc.

As an individual, I loved it. But as a father of two pretty girls, it'll break my heart if they turn out the same. I'd like them to have a better relationship with me than I had with my father (I'd lost my mom at 4, hence the boarding school).

Just so that boarding school independence is not over hyped, I have seen lots of boarders totally dependent on their friends. Totally as in they're dead if their friends are not free for them :).

Like most everyone here agrees, life is not a coin with only two sides.
 
That's only because you went to boarding school yourself.

^^Nah, it's because most boarding guys have only their friends network to fall back on. They have this one for all, all for one thingy.

^^ you hit the proverbial nail right on the head there

BTW , Keane, I think both of us hail from the same school

(where the Vice princy is (or at least was) a sports coach :lol: )
 
superczar said:
^^ you hit the proverbial nail right on the head there

BTW , Keane, I think both of us hail from the same school

(where the Vice princy is (or at least was) a sports coach :lol: )

Wha? You went to school in Delhi?

(I don't know which Vice Princy you're talking about.)
 
^^ LOL..what's so surprising about it?

Maybe the vice princy changed, but the princy (still) is a lady with a surname that starts from C
 
superczar said:
^^ LOL..what's so surprising about it?

Maybe the vice princy changed, but the princy (still) is a lady with a surname that starts from C
Nah. You went to some other school. Maybe another branch of the same school.
 
I went to a British boarding school starting at age 12 and I can honestly say it was a very good thing.

Apart from the many things about child-raising and discipline and other things I have heard there is another consideration.

Firstly the parent should ask the child what he is interested in, my parents asked me and gave me a choice.

Secondly if the education is better at this school, then the child in question will meet peers that he will make friends with for the rest of his life, and these peers will all be good career contacts that will give the child an edge out in the business world later in life.
 
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