Obviously can't go into details, but a school friend of mine ( I was in a residential school from IVth to 12th standard and this guy was my room mate for more than 5 years..we basically grew up together) is simply refusing to pay up the loan he took in 2018.
After school he went to IIT Kanpur and I went to medical school, gradually lost touch except occassional hi / hello through FB or WhatsApp.
He is in Germany for more than 10 years now and in early 2018 got a call and he was in Bratislava and getting married soon!!
He came to our place and stayed overnight and we had a great time. Before leaving he very casually asked for a favor...if I could loan him some money ( possibly it was for some advance payment for the home he was buying plus some marriage expenses etc.)
Later we went to his marriage in Düsseldorf..had a great time there, met his in-laws yada yada...
After getting back from India couple of months back I was really cash strapped and called him ( it's not a lot of money, but for middle class people like me it is kind of significant, and I basically wrote him a cheque of about 80 percent of whatever I had in bank at that time) and he started ghosting me.
I got back from Düsseldorf yesterday in a completely ****ed up state of mind.
The guy lives in a huge house, has 3/4 uber expensive cars, left his IT job and doing some kind of business ( something to do with iOS app development...I'm not sure) He simply refused everything... ofcourse I do have bank statements and everything, but was completely dumbfounded and didn't talk about money anymore.
On the way to airport, his wife called up but she doesn't speak much English and I don't understand German very well and can barely speak. Basically her husband was doing pretty good with his new business initially, sold it to some big company for a huge amount. Spend well over 3 million on that huge house, cars etc. and developed a nasty habit of gambling and lost everything.
He could go back to Siemens, but didn't. Instead took large loans from very sketchy people and they are getting all sorts of weird and threatening phone calls/ visits almost on a daily basis.
She was planning to leave him,but decided to give one last shot to save their marriage and his life.
I thought I knew this man...he could have told me the truth as he knows very well what I've been through in my life, all the mistakes and wrong choices I've made in past.
And I am not really worried about the financial loss ( if I work hard for 6 month, will recover it possibly)
But shall I try to speak to him again...at least try to help?
I understand this is a very personal thing, but any of you here gone through something similar? What did you do?
After school he went to IIT Kanpur and I went to medical school, gradually lost touch except occassional hi / hello through FB or WhatsApp.
He is in Germany for more than 10 years now and in early 2018 got a call and he was in Bratislava and getting married soon!!
He came to our place and stayed overnight and we had a great time. Before leaving he very casually asked for a favor...if I could loan him some money ( possibly it was for some advance payment for the home he was buying plus some marriage expenses etc.)
Later we went to his marriage in Düsseldorf..had a great time there, met his in-laws yada yada...
After getting back from India couple of months back I was really cash strapped and called him ( it's not a lot of money, but for middle class people like me it is kind of significant, and I basically wrote him a cheque of about 80 percent of whatever I had in bank at that time) and he started ghosting me.
I got back from Düsseldorf yesterday in a completely ****ed up state of mind.
The guy lives in a huge house, has 3/4 uber expensive cars, left his IT job and doing some kind of business ( something to do with iOS app development...I'm not sure) He simply refused everything... ofcourse I do have bank statements and everything, but was completely dumbfounded and didn't talk about money anymore.
On the way to airport, his wife called up but she doesn't speak much English and I don't understand German very well and can barely speak. Basically her husband was doing pretty good with his new business initially, sold it to some big company for a huge amount. Spend well over 3 million on that huge house, cars etc. and developed a nasty habit of gambling and lost everything.
He could go back to Siemens, but didn't. Instead took large loans from very sketchy people and they are getting all sorts of weird and threatening phone calls/ visits almost on a daily basis.
She was planning to leave him,but decided to give one last shot to save their marriage and his life.
I thought I knew this man...he could have told me the truth as he knows very well what I've been through in my life, all the mistakes and wrong choices I've made in past.
And I am not really worried about the financial loss ( if I work hard for 6 month, will recover it possibly)
But shall I try to speak to him again...at least try to help?
I understand this is a very personal thing, but any of you here gone through something similar? What did you do?