Fashion Advice

Not an expert or anything but officially got married in 2016.
Are you looking for traditional Indian clothes?
Anyway, I'll possibly give you the least useful advice...my wife and inlaws had ONLY TWO requests for the wedding reception.
1. Get a clean shave for once in life and tie the hair in a clean ponytail
2. If I look like a girl after the clean shave and ponytail, not to forget to take off the earrings.
Got a real nice shave and hair but forgot about the earrings. Nobody said anything...but let's just say...we hide our marriage photo albums in a very secret place and my wife deleted almost all the photographs from her Facebook after getting bunch of weird remarks from her highschool/ college friends.
Congratulations mate...don't worry about the attire...the family members will take care of it. I've been through it twice and back in India you will go through the flow.
 
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LaatSahab said:
M getting married in Feb 2022 but the "functions" will start off from this November itself. M totally clueless about what to wear and when, so need advice from fellow FMs who have recently gone through the rigmarole or have interest in the domain
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Men don't really have a lot of choice. You either wear a suit or a Sherwani. Usually suits in most of the peripheral functions and sherwani when you go with your 'barat' to the girl's house for the marriage. Also people sometimes change clothes for the 'pheras'. There is a tradition at some places, where one gets changed for the 'pheras' and has to wear clothes provided by the girl's side. Earlier even the cloth change was carried out by the members of the girl's family and the reason for this ceremony/tradition was to actually check out the guy physically just in case the groom's family had not shared any physical deformities the guy might have.
Best of luck for your marriage mate. Just go with the flow if you don't have a personal interest in the traditions. I personally would have a very hard time. My sister's marriage was enough for me and I didn't even have to participate in most of the functions.
 
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Men don't really have a lot of choice. You either wear a suit or a Sherwani. Usually suits in most of the peripheral functions and sherwani when you go with your 'barat' to the girl's house for the marriage. Also people sometimes change clothes for the 'pheras'. There is a tradition at some places, where one gets changed for the 'pheras' and has to wear clothes provided by the girl's side. Earlier even the cloth change was carried out by the members of the girl's family and the reason for this ceremony/tradition was to actually check out the guy physically just in case the groom's family had not shared any physical deformities the guy might have.
Best of luck for your marriage mate. Just go with the flow if you don't have a personal interest in the traditions. I personally would have a very hard time. My sister's marriage was enough for me and I didn't even have to participate in most of the functions.
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Thats why I asked him his religion etc. so one can suggest accordingly as in some religions the usual coats/suits wont suit or isnt allowed but only shervanis and ethnic attires.
One more extreme vfm advise, dont buy the attire rather get it on rent as weddings cloths are never even worn again.
 
rdst_1 said:
There is a tradition at some places, where one gets changed for the 'pheras' and has to wear clothes provided by the girl's side. Earlier even the cloth change was carried out by the members of the girl's family and the reason for this ceremony/tradition was to actually check out the guy physically just in case the groom's family had not shared any physical deformities the guy might have.
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Hot damn. I didn't know the reasoning behind this. In case of Bengalis the bride is all glammed up where the groom is in the worst case scenario with a bare torso and a dumbass hat (topor). Same use case to check for deformities I guess then.

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Men don't really have a lot of choice. You either wear a suit or a Sherwani.
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if from north India, sherwani during marriage, suit in dinner party -- is already default.
If he changes anything - fufajee will create ruckus.

Get few Indian traditional dress from Manyavar - to manage those in-between events.
If you referring to engagements - you can go in suits.


LPT -
1. Just ensure the pyjama of the sherwani is comfortable and allows you to sit for hours during marriage.
2. Always consult your to-be wife, whatever you chose should be complementing her. For example - if she is going for heavy ghagra choli- ensure you go in "traditional" with almost matching color.
 
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Regarding the beard situation, many people now have become more accepting of a well-trimmed beard rather than a clean shave... anything < 5mm should be okay. Trim 2-3 days before the function and shave on the night before. The only thing I can say, and it might be counter productive, is just don't wear anything too drastic and uncharacteristic.

Coordinate with your fiance, it is as much her day as it is your / you both's day.

But am not married, so if you get better advice do listen to it lol
 
Marcus Fenix said:
the groom is in the worst case scenario with a bare torso
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ayee... dhuti & sando ganjee is best, if you ask me.... i was amazingly comfortable during the entire long ceremony, but that was decade back.
Topor is always point of concern, specially if it's summer marriage - hand are busy & sweat dripping... you slide it little somehow to get some fresh air in head, but in very next minute mama shout... aiee topor ta thik kor beka hoye geche :p
 
Thank you all for pitching in. Read all the posts, putting up more information here.
1. I'm from Northern Haryana, Hindu, Jaat so besides vedic rituals we have our pagan ceremonies too when it comes to such events.
2. I and my Brother-in-Law to be, both are getting married simultaneously, within a day's gap, so the number of functions double up too.
3. So I'm looking at about 5 dresses; my B-i-L's ring ceremony in November, my own ring ceremony next year, then my wedding, then very next day my B-i-L's wedding and the day after I'll have to take my B-i-L to his "sasuraal" for "fera dalwane" where basically he has to visit all the ancestral holy places of his in-Laws. I'll be covering my "fera daalna" ceremony in the same dress as the one I'll be wearing for my B-i-L's wedding.

Till now, I have decided to go with a semiformal attire for the B-i-L's ring ceremony, preferably a Dinner jacket paired with Trousers or Denims, whichever goes best with it. For my own ring ceremony, thought of wearing a Lucknavi Chickenkari Kurta, Sherwani for Wedding and Jodhpuri Bandh gala for B-i-L's wedding and maybe a suit for the next day.
First, I need validation on this plan. Then I need ideas for designs on the above and yes, in all the above, comfort is of utmost importance as I'm a burly guy trying to shed some kilos before the D-day so will need something comfortable.
 
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