What Are We Doing To Our Kids?
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raksrules
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Parents do not want to talk to kids on sexual stuff and all and that causes problems. Sex education should be mandatory in all schools. And Information about what is wrong touch and all.
This is fairly common in west. But we are tied to traditions and orthodox mentality which just fuels the problem.
This is fairly common in west. But we are tied to traditions and orthodox mentality which just fuels the problem.
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sharktale1212
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^ Exacto mundo. One of my friends was harassed from his childhood - that too openly in his joint family. From what he told me, many in the household used to pull on his penis constantly causing pain and making fun of him. His parents used to think this was all in good fun. It wasn't until that during a recent depression bout when the psychologist explained his parents about it. They still remained defiant.
Absolutely. However, the Govt has to come forward with such ruling to provide a legal standpoint. If schools come up with such courses there will be tremendous hues and cries from a section of the parents, women's rights organizations and what not.
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Yeah, this is going to be a tough thing to do. religious schools will still be exempt like they are abroad.
Parents are not comfortable with sex related talk even now in most homes. Introducing the subject in schools will lead to discussion on the topic at home with innocent/cheeky kids asking all sort of questions. With majority of people in India in backward category wrt education, I don't think this is a good idea. Govt needs to educate the people first.
Aman27deep
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I'm in my twenties and neither of my parents have ever talked about sex with me. And as they never have, I'll be uncomfortable to talk about it with them now.
They've always talked about marriage and kids but not sex. It's quite baffling.
I asked plenty of my class friends regarding the same, and it's the same with everyone. I guess it's just how most Indian parents are.
They've always talked about marriage and kids but not sex. It's quite baffling.
I asked plenty of my class friends regarding the same, and it's the same with everyone. I guess it's just how most Indian parents are.
rdst_1
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It is the same everywhere. I think they think we know everything because of internet. Thankfully, my parents and I can be in the same room without feeling awkward if a love scene comes up in a hollywood movie. I am not proud to say this but I believe even that is an achievement for Indian parents.
Switch
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I could not read beyond the first page. I have two small kids and I am shocked and scared. Though I have known cases like this but the details about the cases are too much to accept. I somehow understood this being done among the poor and uneducated but reading the case of the rich and educated family has left me completely speechless.
Yes my parents have never talked about sex with me but they did made me and my sister understand that where can we be touched and where we could not be touched by anybody when we were small. Also I see all my other friends keeping a close eye on their kids and whom they interact with. I think that more then anything is important weather it be a small boy or a girl. You have to keep your eyes open and you have to make sure that the kids comes and talks to you whatsoever it is about. Listening to the kids and making them feel important is the key. Once they are comfortable with you then you have won half the battle.
I hope that non of this should ever be experienced by anybody but if somehow you are in such a situation then be mentally strong and be bold and do the right thing. Hiding it should never be an option.
Yes my parents have never talked about sex with me but they did made me and my sister understand that where can we be touched and where we could not be touched by anybody when we were small. Also I see all my other friends keeping a close eye on their kids and whom they interact with. I think that more then anything is important weather it be a small boy or a girl. You have to keep your eyes open and you have to make sure that the kids comes and talks to you whatsoever it is about. Listening to the kids and making them feel important is the key. Once they are comfortable with you then you have won half the battle.
I hope that non of this should ever be experienced by anybody but if somehow you are in such a situation then be mentally strong and be bold and do the right thing. Hiding it should never be an option.
Santa Maria!
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I'm also not proud to say this, but I too see that as an impressive achievement on your side, for I have not seen such success on my end.
I had come across a video a while back, guiding as to how to talk to your children from as young as age 4 in order to help them protect themselves from child sex abuse. Let me see if I can find that link.
Luckily or thankfully I should say, folks in my house have been pretty liberal, even my grandparents. I remember my parents talked to me about safe and unsafe touching when I was pretty young and later on in my teens had the talk about sex as well. I am surely gonna be doing the same whenever I get married and have kids of my own!
As Switch said, it helps to talk to your child at the end of the day asking them casually about their day and listening to them. You may be able to spot something amiss if they seem uncomfortable talking about any particular thing. I see my sister do this with my niece and she's just 4 yrs old.
Found the link to the video:
And the website: http://nobadtouch.com/
Luckily or thankfully I should say, folks in my house have been pretty liberal, even my grandparents. I remember my parents talked to me about safe and unsafe touching when I was pretty young and later on in my teens had the talk about sex as well. I am surely gonna be doing the same whenever I get married and have kids of my own!
As Switch said, it helps to talk to your child at the end of the day asking them casually about their day and listening to them. You may be able to spot something amiss if they seem uncomfortable talking about any particular thing. I see my sister do this with my niece and she's just 4 yrs old.
Found the link to the video:
And the website: http://nobadtouch.com/
Doremon
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Are bhai, 
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My intention is to share valid & correct sex information by paper form. Not like Parent sitting with kids & educating A,B,C.. of Sex which is still surreptitious in Indian Society though most concieved factor by all of us!
Nowadays, dailys, magazines, tutorials are mostly subscribed in our house & it serve purpose if cross highlighted by same gender-Mom to Daughter & Father to son...
..My intention is to share valid & correct sex information by paper form. Not like Parent sitting with kids & educating A,B,C.. of Sex which is still surreptitious in Indian Society though most concieved factor by all of us!
Nowadays, dailys, magazines, tutorials are mostly subscribed in our house & it serve purpose if cross highlighted by same gender-Mom to Daughter & Father to son...
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My dad tried to talk to me about the 'birds & the bees' when i was in my mid teens, got me a book as well. Let's say i was extremely uncomfortable and embarassed to discuss it with him. I just could not do it. I did read the book though.
Its a difficult subject for both parents and their children to broach. Teachers with experience are better suited for this task.
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