Most of issues arise due to Buy/Sell topics mostly.
Strongly suggest to Keep strict rules for same to avoid these issues.
An example: 1 year + 200 or 300 posts. We will never see people who only join for buying/selling, they won't join in at all seeing that big barrier (seems too hard, but keeps main motive of site = tech and related discussions which similar minded people will always find useful/attractive to join)
So, I'm giving this guy some golden advice on GPUs, right? He's eyeing this used GPU, a 4080, but I'm like, "Hold your horses, buddy!" I tell him, "Why settle for a used 4080 when you can snag a 3090 for less? It's like buying a slightly dinged-up Ferrari when the dealership is practically giving away Lamborghinis!"
But oh no, Mr. Bargain Hunter ain't having it! He's like, "Thanks for nothing, pal!" I'm sitting there, rolling on the floor laughing because, come on, who doesn't appreciate a good deal? But this guy? He's all bent out of shape, like I just insulted his favorite gaming chair or something.
And to top it off, he's still on the fence about that 4080, while the world's moved on to the 4080 Super FE, fresh out the GPU oven! I tried to save him some dough, but he's stuck in his used-GPU bubble or sand. Found the perfect GIF.
Oh well, some folks just love their tech drama more than their savings accounts! Admins did clean that thread later on.
The issue is that he never communicated that he would pay only after packing — if he had done so, I would have happily obliged. Instead, like most other sane people, I assumed he lost interest in the item because no payment was made. I understand he has had bad experiences with other members in the past who ghosted him but literally no one else on this forum expects you to pack an item before payment is received.
It's a shame, he's made very generous offers to what I've been wanting to offload and he himself has had very desirable hardware that I would love to have purchased — but this experience has made me uncomfortable in dealing with him.
But not to the point of blocking him, I've acceepted that his worldview on transactions just doesn't match mine.
I have a few simple rules in life for my peace of mind
1 ) Be honest and transparent - we have to answer to God one day. I even told Dhoomketu that I have been called unethical for the sale thread of this cpu and he can back off to avoid any controversy.
2 ) If there's anything you need to return to settle a debt do it before the other person is forced to ask for his stuff back
3 ) If there's nothing to be gained from a useless conversation and the person is an unknown block and move on. I have a 2000+ block list on wa and truecaller - if someone spams me I block.
4 ) If someone I don't know wants to engage in a conversation once it's reached a conclusion and there's nothing left to discuss ignore / block.
5 ) If someone unknown is slightly rude / abusive - wish them a good day and block
Why should I have to deal with someone who I owe nothing to and is rude from the get go ? Nothing to be gained. This person flashes his feedback as if it's a badge of honor ! Demands special conditions ( I even tried to ship using swiggy genie and dunzo - both refused and I shared the SS because he was adamant i try hyperlocal services instead of speedpost ) , was clearly told to pay first and demand a packing video later, then comes back and starts arguing and blaming me. Did I abuse him back ? Did I use any incorrect words ? Do I not have the right to cancel a trade and ignore him ? Does he have the right to then invade my privacy by sms when the deal is clearly off ? Does he have the right to abuse me on TE ? Post lies ? Crap on my FS thread ? Call me unethical ? And he gets away with such abuse because ............ nobody cares ?
Till when do we engage with such people ? Why can't we choose the simplest and easiest option - block and move on ? If someone had told me the deal is off and there's no monetary exchange till that moment then I would just thank him / her and move on. I won't engage in random conversations and abuse that person. We have to be a bit more mature than such trolling. I have tried to be understanding and even admitted in an earlier post when pointed out by a fellow user that my blocking caused him to misbehave even more in the SMS but is it warranted ? Is a stranger allowed to misbehave and abuse because you blocked him ? What if he k***s / h***s someone because he felt bad at being blocked by that person ? Are there no self limits and morals we as adults should have ? Can such behavior be excused just because the person has high feedback ( and from the looks of it a lot of users seem to have similar issues with this person - is feedback even usable as a metric ? )
Let's end the discussion here. Hope admins take relevant action against which ever user they choose to. Ideally, if someone is a repeat offender, then just for the sake of maintaining forum sanity / hygiene, there should be a way to display the same on user profile so other users are aware before engaging in a discussion with said user
Does he have the right to abuse me on TE ? Post lies ? Crap on my FS thread ? Call me unethical ? And he gets away with such abuse because ............ nobody cares ?
but is it warranted ? Is a stranger allowed to misbehave and abuse because you blocked him ? What if he k***s / h***s someone because he felt bad at being blocked by that person ? Are there no self limits and morals we as adults should have ? Can such behavior be excused just because the person has high feedback ( and from the looks of it a lot of users seem to have similar issues with this person - is feedback even usable as a metric ? )
No, it is not. I am likely close to one-third his age and nearly half yours. All I was trying to do was de-escalate the entire thing. He surely needs to retrospect over his actions.
And that is exactly what I told him, when the same was asked of me. That did not go well. So I blocked him and that was that.
I did not have anything against him at that point and that was my first interaction. But one should realize after few message exchanges that there is a distinct escalating pattern to them so much so that you better to do what he says or else. Well, I have zero tolerance for that kind of BS.
So, here's my encounter with a so-called greedy idiot member who offered to help me in my passionate hobby to complete one project.
He himself contacted me via pm and gradually it turned into a good interaction on whatsapp before he showed his true character.
Never knew that a person changes colors as instantly as a chameleon when the sole motive behind offering to help is nothing but a sheer greed and a cunning mind while taking unfair advantage by exploiting the needy and trying to make the most of the situation while completely loot the needy for one's greed and shattering all the hopes and even costing him a good deal elsewhere.
So, he offered to help aka sell me an item for a fair price which I was looking for. Most importantly he said he isn't looking for profits, motive was purely to help.
During the chat, he said he has more of such stuff and started sharing pics and I was interested in few of them, and he said he can meet in a few days with all the stuff and have a onetime deal. I was like fine that will be cool!
When he contacted me the next day he had a different outlook. He said he cannot sell that item alone but only as a set of 6 and that too at scalping pricing with some bargaining value and this was it, the wtf moment.
I made him understand and was very transparent that I already have 90% stuff from that set, yet he then started forcing on me to buy the entire set that too at inflated scalping prices where earlier agreement was only for a single commodity for a fair pricing.
When I confronted him, he shamelessly says no money exchanged means no commitment hence no deal! See his principles and greediness here.
And between all this, just two days ago I had already received an offer for the exact stuff from someone outside the forum, but I denied it as I had already committed to this guy (which was my biggest mistake and regret)
This really pissed me off as I obviously started to look at this person as someone with zero moral values tbh.
Why shall someone force someone to buy stuff he already has aka buy doubles where the original deal was just for a single item?
Still, I gave it a thought and as he already said some negotiation is possible, so I quoted him a price just 500 bucks less and was ready to sacrifice aka take a loss of literally a good 4.6k extra buying doubles just to get that single piece.
To which he hasn't replied till date.
He wanted to deal only on his own terms right from the start till end and he thought that as a collector he can exploit me the way he wants and kept trying to loot money with is greedy motives and his greed kept him turning away from his own words. I called him but he doesn't even have the courtesy let alone the guts to even callback and better deal on a call but rather preferred tiny wini whatsapp chatting instead.
Now, I had lost both the deals just because I stood true to my commitment towards this fool, an arrogant, greedy, cunning, kiddish member.
He wasted my valuable time in fact raising hopes then crushing down for his own greed. I was always open for negotiations but not to coerce into something unworthy.
I have the entire whatsapp conversation but don't want to disclose here nor want others to rant over it as have 99.9% exposed that guy & his deeds here except his name..
A totally valueless person.
A person who doesn't keeps up with his own words and commitments and the one who only thinks of milking the maximum via exploitation with pathetic business principles.
The most cunning and greediest persons around I ever encountered here having no self-integrity let alone his conscience. When he got to know the stuff is worth a fortune these days, he clearly started exploitation.
Its people like him who first praise, raise hopes of someone who is innocent & hopeful, agrees upon something initially & then totally turns up as the greed to earn goes into their head & then simply forces the person to buy something in the name of a set of which the person already owns the stuff. And moreover, costing that buyer another deal which he declines because he has agreed something with such a seller on a mutual basis.
People like him are as good as a rust and garbage for this forum! Better to deal with him cautiously.
We might have few people around trying to be a Good guy but with cunning nature and cruel intentions.
Would advise to such people better don't offer your help around. Better live your olx life elsewhere as you fit there and not here spoiling the forums integrity.
If you can't stick to your words & only want to get greedy exploiting the needy then better don't offer your so-called fake trap help & play with the innocent hopes of the needy.
The issue is that he never communicated that he would pay only after packing — if he had done so, I would have happily obliged. Instead, like most other sane people, I assumed he lost interest in the item because no payment was made. I understand he has had bad experiences with other members in the past who ghosted him but literally no one else on this forum expects you to pack an item before payment is received.
It's a shame, he's made very generous offers to what I've been wanting to offload and he himself has had very desirable hardware that I would love to have purchased — but this experience has made me uncomfortable in dealing with him.
But not to the point of blocking him, I've acceepted that his worldview on transactions just doesn't match mine.
1. yours is the only deal that didnt went through out of so many after we shifted to whatsapp. because i was in Russia visiting my family and many sites are blocked and using through vpn is a bog issue. ON PM/DM many deals get cancelled/that i dont care.
also when i returned most of the rams had gone. So i lost interest. Also i have a rule . its usually all or nothing, if any part gets sold i dont go thru it. because shipping cost should be justified
2. I have this rule. and yeah payment has always been upfront. 999.99 % even from newbie. I tried this and with my experience if people have packed it and kept it at their desk. 100% have shipped them the very next day.
bhai shipping ke bad thodai payment ke liye bolta hu. Look at the bright side. even if the deal don't go through, which had not been the case till now in so many years. You just have to change the label to whom to send next.
3. My ratings is not the parameter to boast. but to show that i have dealt too many times here to have enough experience with all kind of people.
I dont think these rule reeks of arrogance of any kind. Its purely a mechanism so that TIME doesn't get wasted plus deal is fair. which is proven by 100% ratings in so many times over the year.
Seriously! This thread proves or is a testimony that we do have that 10% class of shameless worthless people around who instead of agreeing on their mistakes, apologizing and moving on prefers to keep ranting, argue and defend their mistakes and behaviours unnecessarily. It comes down oh wait it boils down to their ego isn't it?
Wondering if these people even have a job or family or just feeding on their daddy's money in some closed hostel rooms hence they get ample of time to keep defending on their utter crap.
And that is exactly what I told him, when the same was asked of me. That did not go well. So I blocked him and that was that.
I did not have anything against him at that point and that was my first interaction. But one should realize after few message exchanges that there is a distinct escalating pattern to them so much so that you better to do what he says or else. Well, I have zero tolerance for that kind of BS.
Seriously! This thread proves or is a testimony that we do have that 10% class of shameless worthless people around who instead of agreeing on their mistakes, apologizing and moving on prefers to keep ranting, argue and defend their mistakes and behaviours unnecessarily. It comes down oh wait it boils down to their ego isn't it?
Wondering if these people even have a job or family or just feeding on their daddy's money in some closed hostel rooms hence they get ample of time to keep defending on their utter crap.
This thread is meant to talk about members and their behaviour in general, not directed to anyone specific.
Let's not get into personal bashing and naming names. And stop with OT or non contributing posts
This thread is meant to talk about members and their behaviour in general, not directed to anyone specific.
Let's not get into personal bashing and naming names. And stop with OT or non contributing posts
True, but aren't the members in question the specific ones with whom such issues happened?
As someone pointed out why stretch when one shall just accept the mistakes, apologize and simply move on. But the culprits are busy defending their faults across directions.
