Well finally found a SOLUTION to my 2 year old problem
hyeah: now I dont need to RESTART my modem every time my PC wakes up
all that was needed was to change a single registry entry :
HKEY_LOCAL_MACHINE\SYSTEM\CurrentControlSet\Services\RasMan\Parameters
Change the key KeepRasConnections to 0x1
If the key KeepRasConnections does not exists at the location then create one under the parameters with the name KeepRasConnections type REG_DWORD :rofl: cant imagine such a small change could releave me of my problem glad there was no modem problem