Civil manners in India

[swatkats]

The kid living above my flat jumps, runs drags sofa, cot and even with him his 14 year old sister as if they alone stay in the apartment.
I have requested them, its like someone's hitting on head.

Idiots won't change.

This is the basic civil manner, not to cause inconvenience to anyone.

Basically Indians are selfish and self-centered.

rightly said.

 

[booo]

^ Actually, it happens here too. there are spoilt kids everywhere.

 

[Criminal]

i am trying to source a magic potion from china, that'll turn me into superman for one day. i'll then screw each and every vehicle in india so bad that they won't be able to 'blow' their horns ever again. i'll spare trains for the moment. sharing my intentions with TE folks so that you can either mend your ways or hide your 'horny' vehicles.

 

[Mr.J]

My pet peeve (I remember a column with the same name in the "Caravan" magazine of yesteryears ):

Students or groups of people walking side by side occupying the entire stretch of the road or the sidewalk. They don't give a damn about the people or vehicles coming ahead or behind them. It results in unnecessary confrontations or accidents.

As per my observation, females do this regularly compared to males.

 

[amohit]

My current personal pet peeve is: group of people standing in corridors talking. Even if a person struggles to go past them, they don't feel the need to clear out and take their conversation to a more comfortable environment.

Give them the taste of their own medicine. Try being rude and cross in between them. (Provided there isnt enough space to walk beside them, without bumping into them or without doing some kind of circus). I do it all the time. corridors are meant for walking...meeting rooms are meant for talking. Ditto for a group of friends hanging around the water dispenser. I wait for a few seconds and if I see they are wasting my time, I rudely push my way in stand their, drink water and walk off. Some get the message..others dont!

My pet peeve is the "if anything is free, let's take advantage of it" thing which is very common.
Free food or drinks? - jump on it and stuff faces till they vomit.
Just grab everything so others don't get a chance. No one will be content with just one. I've seen this every where. From big super rich people to poor people. Its like a stampede.

Try tuning into the "developed" countires' news channel on black friday. Those reasonably well to do guys from "rich" countries not very different in this matter atleast.


My pet peev is IT guys taking conf calls on speaker phone from desk and disturbing everyone around them.

Regards,
Mohit

 

[hotshot05]

Give them the taste of their own medicine. Try being rude and cross in between them. (Provided there isnt enough space to walk beside them, without bumping into them or without doing some kind of circus). I do it all the time. corridors are meant for walking...meeting rooms are meant for talking. Ditto for a group of friends hanging around the water dispenser. I wait for a few seconds and if I see they are wasting my time, I rudely push my way in stand their, drink water and walk off. Some get the message..others dont!



Try tuning into the "developed" countires' news channel on black friday. Those reasonably well to do guys from "rich" countries not very different in this matter atleast.


My pet peev is IT guys taking conf calls on speaker phone from desk and disturbing everyone around them.

Regards,
Mohit

Sorry, could not agree with you.
The handset does get quite hot if the conference call goes on and on. And most people lose interest in a conf call as there are many discussions going on not related to them. People turn off the mute and talk when their turn comes. Otherwise they only keep tabs to see if their name is being called out by someone.l

 

[asingh]

The kid living above my flat jumps, runs drags sofa, cot and even with him his 14 year old sister as if they alone stay in the apartment.
I have requested them, its like someone's hitting on head.

Exactly. You hit the root, right on the center. This is where it all starts: when a kid is old enough to understand and record instruction sets; the parent inculcate bad programming into them.

Highlighted by:

1. Lying / deceit / dishonesty is fine. (Which in turn the kid as an adult dishes out to his/her own parents when they retire).
2. Be self centered and selfish. (Geocentric PoV).
3. There is no favor or task where one does not profit or have an advantage for later on. (Opportunistic paradigm)
4. Everyone (apart from parents) is your enemy and competitor. (One up - manship)
5. Being rude and impolite is the way to be on the streets. (Boorish behavior from day one).
6. As long as "you" are happy, you need not wonder or take heed to what is around you. (Isolation).
7. When someone needs help or can be helped with a minor time - out, do not. Revert to (3). (Greed).
8. Disregarding verbiage from adults which are not parents is normalcy. (Indifference).
9. By hook-or-by-crook is fine. (Criminality, even if minor or between the chinks).
10. Self indulgence is right-of-birth, enforce it. (Always wanting gratification).
11. Control of mouth (brain to tongue connection) is neutered at an early age. That is why Indians are "famous" for speaking out-of-line, anywhere - everywhere. (Inappropriate mannerisms).
12. If not your property or substance it can be regarded as garbage and can be abused / misused / maligned. (Belligerent attitude)

They end result is a human: who is grossly inhumane and only thinks of himself, and cares nothing for the world around. A person like this could be on the moon or an asylum in Arkam.

My pet peev is IT guys taking conf calls on speaker phone from desk and disturbing everyone around them.

Extremely annoying, cause the room echos. But yea, long calls can be difficult. Both sides should adjust.

 

[amohit]

Sorry, could not agree with you.
The handset does get quite hot if the conference call goes on and on. And most people lose interest in a conf call as there are many discussions going on not related to them. People turn off the mute and talk when their turn comes. Otherwise they only keep tabs to see if their name is being called out by someone.l

Happens with me also. But then I generally either book a meeting room or talk via bluetooth (if taking call on mobile) or at the very least reduce the volume to bare min so that others are not disturbed.

Regards,
Mohit

 

[hotshot05]

I would love it if the high end landline phones had a 3.5mm audio jack. Would make life easier for everyone.

 

[Criminal]

^^ or people can buy headsets that replace the conventional telephone handsets... those headsets have telephone jack instead of 3.5mm audio jack. all of my workplaces had those headsets.

 

[hotshot05]

^^ or people can buy headsets that replace the conventional telephone handsets... those headsets have telephone jack instead of 3.5mm audio jack. all of my workplaces had those headsets.

I have not seen any in my workplace. And people will not be too enthusiastic about spending money on something like this. Add to that the corporate security policy. If the admin people see it, it will definitely be flagged as a security violation.

 

[Criminal]

^^ yes, you are right. people can definitely steal data via headsets.

 

[hotshot05]

^^ yes, you are right. people can definitely steal data via headsets.

Most of the phones are VOIP phones I think. Not sure. In my workplace, they are connected via RJ-45 connector (at least looks like RJ-45. It definitely isn't RJ-11). So somewhere they may be connected to the internet.
Do not underestimate the Chinese people's ingenuity. ;-)
They can put bugs anywhere.

Also many deal related deliberations go on over the phone network. If a person is able to record the conversations and sell it to nearest competitor, a few deals may be lost.
One thing I have learnt from IT, people are very happy to discuss work over the phone instead of sending emails. No one wants to keep a written record as they will be unable to wiggle out of a tight situation.

 

[Criminal]

^^ if your company is so serious about business that they have a dedicated security team, then i am sure they would be open to ideas that create a better workplace for everyone. try asking for headsets to ensure privacy and less disturbance for others. conf calls on speaker mode is a security threat in itself, even if you are surrounded by your own team mates.

 

[hotshot05]

^^
My team members are working on the same project and we sit together. So presently all of us need to listen to the same call and hence the conference calls are on speaker phone.
But if one needs to have a one to one chat, we use the handset. Always.