Do Indian women have a deludedly high opinion of themselves? Or lack of exposure?

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sid_donnydarko

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Ok. I'm 26 and i've reached that point in my life where i stop being a bloody judgemental pr**k and try to be as tolerant as i possibly can. It so happened that i decided to meet up with an old friend of mine from school a few days ago. She was initially very impressed(although i couldn't figure what she found impressive in me) by how i carried myself when we started chatting over calls. Then we decided to meet up at an icecream parlour. We hit it off really well. The conversation built up to a point where she was doing all the talking and i was listening while making subtle suggestions and threw in the usual fillers. But she also forgot that her voice was getting a lot louder as she spoke and this was attracting attention from all around. I didn't mind(honest to god) because she really is the bubbly sort and that's where her sex appeal lies. When we decided to pack up and leave she asked me if i owned a vehicle and i told her i didn't. Even though she didn't say it, i could make out she had judged me when she smirked at my answer. I walked her to her car while openly admitting that i was the geeky sort unlike the men she hangs out with. But that smirk had already done its damage and when she gave me a tight hug, i let her know that i was least impressed.

Now before you guys start bashing this chick, mind you she's a really sweet gujju. I know this for a fact because i grew up with her for the first 9 years of my life. And she hasn't changed much since then unlike myself.

What i want to know is if women in our country, at around my age, have an incredibly high opinion of themselves? You tend to see this attitude in school & college but that's where it also dies. Is my observation incorrect? I have come across few other "characters" from work(younger women - 2 years my junior) who have found me interesting but think i'm a geek. I'm fine with being called a "geek", but according to these wise-ass's a geek is considered by the fairer sex to be less manly than one who isn't. Ridiculous as it may sound and as much as i find it bloody hilarious let alone resentful, do Indian women(certain age group) lack the necessary exposure to judge us men properly.

P.S. Please spare this thread of BS like "men are from mars and women...."
 
I would love get Rite's views on this. Mods don't close this thread! I am sure he would say you didn't wear Armani jeans with a gucci shirt and a rado watch robert shoes or something!
 
You should get over the geek thing.

God made you a certain way. you are happy with it. why bother?. Even after her smirk if shes intd in you why u complaining? Go for it.

On a side note. Its us men who has a ridiculously high opinion about ourselves. I know this for a fact. Even when comparing to the most self obsessed Girl.
 
m-jeri said:
You should get over the geek thing.

God made you a certain way. you are happy with it. why bother?. Even after her smirk if shes intd in you why u complaining? Go for it.

On a side note. Its us men who has a ridiculously high opinion about ourselves. I know this for a fact. Even when comparing to the most self obsessed Girl.
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Like i said before i'm fine with being called a geek. Its just the stigma attached to an indian geek that i have a problem with.

Its the same as someone admitting that he/she loves Apple products but hates their snobbish immature marketing style!

BTW she's not interested in me :) And i wouldn't be interested in someone whom i personally feel lacks proper judgement PERIOD



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madnav said:
do we get paid for populating GT section?

I can work.
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Lemme guess, you have a well-oiled sixpack and can do a thousand crunches in a day? :bleh:
 
m-jeri said:
You should get over the geek thing.

God made you a certain way. you are happy with it. why bother?. Even after her smirk if shes intd in you why u complaining? Go for it.

On a side note. Its us men who has a ridiculously high opinion about ourselves. I know this for a fact. Even when comparing to the most self obsessed Girl.
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That make belief is debatable. I want to discuss that but forum rules do not allow discussing any influential substances such as drugs, alcohol, religion.
 
First of all stop referring to women as chicks .. if you want to be taken seriously.

and unless you've had similar experiences with the women of the remaining 190-or so countries .. try not to single out Indian women.

And this necessary-exposure that you speak of .. is it the one you've gained through your extensive geeky lifestyle ..
 
Its the same as someone admitting that he/she loves Apple products but hates their snobbish immature marketing style!
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lol ...

Dude wasnt that just one girl you know... y do u hv to bring up this in a forum?? I guess its not like proccys or mobos n i also think if at all you can generalize something, 'women behaviour' is best among the options :).... you are sure all **** up in your mind,, you seem to know what every girl think about you.. wonder hw many would hv told that to ur face...nyways its very funny to read what u wrote(No offence meant..just being honest)...
 
dexBG said:
First of all stop referring to women as chicks .. if you want to be taken seriously.

and unless you've had similar experiences with the women of the remaining 190-or so countries .. try not to pick at Indian women.

And this necessary-exposure that you speak of .. is it the one you've gained through your extensive geeky lifestyle ..
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I didn't mean to be judgemental when i used the word "chicks" to classify women.

I haven't had any experience with women from other nations. That's why i put up this thread in the first place. I keep my ego in check and don't mind being told my opinion is "wrong" or "incorrect".

It could be that my geeky lifestyle may have influenced my judgement when i thought about this topic, but imagine yourself being told that you're a geek and thus a lesser man, when you do your best not be all-knowing and judgemental.

P.S. I've corrected my main post as per your observation.
 
sid_donnydarko said:
Like i said before i'm fine with being called a geek. Its just the stigma attached to an indian geek that i have a problem with.

Its the same as someone admitting that he/she loves Apple products but hates their snobbish immature marketing style!

BTW she's not interested in me :) And i wouldn't be interested in someone whom i personally feel lacks proper judgement PERIOD



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Lemme guess, you have a well-oiled sixpack and can do a thousand crunches in a day? :bleh:
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BTW you are under a false notion of you being a geek.

you are a member since 2006 and your rep bar does not suggest you are geek enough :P

sorry cannot think of any vague answer /replies right now.
 
Alright...now that i finally read your post :P

She was initially very impressed(although i couldn't figure what she found impressive in me) by how i carried myself when we started chatting over calls
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She was just being nice to you, being generous. But maybe that was too much to accept?

When we decided to pack up and leave she asked me if i owned a vehicle and i told her i didn't. Even though she didn't say it, i could make out she had judged me when she smirked at my answer.
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She judged, but didnt try to render her being special and sort unlike the MEN you hang out with generally (reference in next quote)

I walked her to her car while openly admitting that i was the geeky sort unlike the men she hangs out with.
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ok now that i have read uptill the last paragraph... I think it is YOU who is being judgmental and having high opinion of self being a geek..

Have highlighted the words where your ego PEES allover self respect she may have.

You have made a judgment in one date and did not care before making a snappy comment of throwing attitude and you are accusing her?

I'm assuming she did not create a thread about this on an open online forum like you..did she ?!!

Go get a life man...

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Just read your reply about 6pack..

No the member 6pack n I have nothing as of that sort.

if taking about my shape then nope, I carry a rather common burger pack rightnow..
 
MrCool said:
lol ...

Dude wasnt that just one girl you know... y do u hv to bring up this in a forum?? I guess its not like proccys or mobos n i also think if at all you can generalize something, 'women behaviour' is best among the options :).... you are sure all **** up in your mind,, you seem to know what every girl think about you.. wonder hw many would hv told that to ur face...nyways its very funny to read what u wrote(No offence meant..just being honest)...
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Well i'm glad i can make someone laugh! :D Seriously

All i want to know is if its worth being the "better person" when you hang around with someone who isn't.
 
sid_donnydarko said:
All i want to know is if its worth being the "better person" when you hang around with someone who isn't.
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Depends on how badly you wanna get into their pants.
 
madnav said:
Alright...now that i finally read your post :P
She was just being nice to you, being generous. But maybe that was too much to accept?
She judged, but didnt try to render her being special and sort unlike the MEN you hang out with generally (reference in next quote)
ok now that i have read uptill the last paragraph... I think it is YOU who is being judgmental and having high opinion of self being a geek..
Have highlighted the worked where your ego PEES allover selfrespect she may have about herself.

You have made a judgment in one date and did not care before making a snappy comment of throwing attitude and you are accusing her?
I'm assuming she did not create a thread about this on an open online forum like you..did she ?!!

Go get a life man...
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Awwww crap :facepalm: I should've mentioned this in the main post!

When we were talking over a call, i was surprised she asked me out even after i hinted that i was the geeky sort. Hell! My FB profile screams geekiness from every angle!

Please read my MP again. I was not bashing her in any way.

Now before you guys start bashing this chick, mind you she's a really sweet gujju. I know this for a fact because i grew up with her for the first 9 years of my life. And she hasn't changed much since then unlike myself.
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Compared to the previous 2 women she was the nicer one. I couldn't understand why she asked me out in the first place when she wasn't comfortable around geeks?

I don't have a problem hanging around any woman for that matter too.

I was being the nice guy the whole bloody time! I kept her occupied when she told me she was depressed! And i didn't mind her calling me at odd hours either!! :(
 
I didn't mean to be judgemental when i used the word "chicks" to classify women.

I haven't had any experience with women from other nations. That's why i put up this thread in the first place. I keep my ego in check and don't mind being told my opinion is "wrong" or "incorrect".

It could be that my geeky lifestyle may have influenced my judgement when i thought about this topic, but imagine yourself being told that you're a geek and thus a lesser man, when you do your best not be all-knowing and judgemental.

P.S. I've corrected my main post as per your observation.
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Thanks or that ..

now understand that its not just that one is geeky or excessively passionate about a certain thing ..

People face a lots of social stigma ..

Fat people .. dark skinned people .. unattractive people .. different socio-economic background ..for both men and women

Society in general will strike you down for lot many things .. and try to 'look down' upon them.

And this geeky lifestyle that you repeatedly mention .. you are stereotyping yourself ..

Unless you believe that some are born/made superior to others then drop this notion.

Labeling people from their behavior-interests is thing you're against .. so stop doing it to yourself.
 
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