This is a very important topic that needs to be discussed literally everywhere possible. Even on a Technology forum. I come from an academic background where writing lengthy pieces of texts is not an anomaly and I hope this doesn't bore anybody. This post is divided into two parts where I propose solutions to some common problems we see in our society - our neighbourhood, in our everyday lives, and follow it up with some clarifications regarding my terribly worded post in the recent past, to encourage feminism from ground zero. Everybody is welcome to chime in while behaving civilised.
Part I : Some problems that I have observed and the solutions that I propose.
Problem: There are mothers who take pride in how abusive their sons are. I have personally witnessed how their eyes lit up hearing their son hurl abuses left and right to someone, in person or on call. Wrong.
Solution: Teach your kids to not use slang anywhere. MC, BC is not alright. The slang themselves are derogatory to the females and shouldn't be used in any context. Mothers need to stop fostering this toxicity. Being abusive has nothing positive about it. Mothers need to beat up their sons who dare to foul mouth in front of them.
Problem: Tolerating toxicity. I have seen sons who openly and directly tell their mothers "You are a female and can stay in home 24x7 not us males."
Solution: Unacceptable. Mothers need to be appreciated for what they do. Sons, daughters and husbands need to reduce the workload on mothers so that they can all roam around together. No soul likes captivity and such words must not be uttered by anybody.
Problem: Making only the daughters do the household chores. Sometimes even at the expense of their play time or studies.
Solution: Sons, daughters and husbands need to share the workload. Males shouldn't shy away from roles that are traditionally ascribed to females. Education must be enforced for all genders in equal measure.
Problem: Looking down upon housewives.
Solution: Feminism's objective was to give females the choice, not enforce a narrative. Being housewife is a personal choice that's worthy of just as much respect as anything else. Forcing women to get employed against their will is taking the choice away. If your partner wants that, there is no reason to be disrespectful.
You are welcome to point out more problems and solutions in your replies.
Part - II : I need you to read this too.
If you are one of the members who saw my now infamous post with the "p" word ever so dominant, I have no second thoughts in admitting that it was "the most terribly worded" piece of text "I have ever written" in my entire life. It was as low-effort a post as an educated individual can ever make. And no, I can't get myself to reward that tag personally to any individual regardless of their gender. Neither online, nor offline. Never used that word prior to that post, and I am being absolutely honest when I say that. While my intentions were right, the words were truly totally out of the place. So here it goes, what I meant to write there;
Feminism is responsible for single-handedly changing the course of lives of countless females. They didn't have access to fundamental human rights such as the right to equality, education, vote, personal and financial freedom. It gave them the right to walk away from toxic/failed marriages/relationships. To remarry, without the fear of judgement. Giving them the bodily autonomy and not forcing them to wait till marriage.
Bodily autonomy, yes that word and not feminism is where my critique was. Humans proactively learn from their surroundings, living or non-living; from their everyday experiences as well as interactions. One's surroundings can twist the definition of bodily autonomy, just as it can twist the definition of anything else under the sky. With the exploration of the new "cultures", there is a FOMO that's automatically created among the newer generations. This FOMO certainly drives many people drives many into promiscuity and not their own internal desire or absolute freewill. Humans find strength in groups and one can get into any group for validation.
Though I don't use Reddit much, I've been thorough posts from r/TwoXIndia in the past. One highly upvoted comment had stuck me particularly deep, when a female had written "Men end up getting what they want either way, so jumping into the No Strings Attached was a mistake she would not like to repeat." This comment was basically the backbone of my horribly worded post. If somebody is trying to feel like he/she is earning bodily autonomy or control over the other gender by finding lust instead of love, they are getting practically nothing. If one aims to fight what feminism calls patriarchy, this has nothing to do with it. This is just a lifestyle that people with little self-control adopt as a personal choice. If without external influence, somebody enters and adopts this lifestyle, knowing that if there is anything to be had, it is highs of sensations and nothing meaningful on its own, then surely do what you want. Nobody should be name called for this. It's your life.
At the same time, It is important that one is honest about their life choices to their future long term partner. Because if they are looking for something that you're not, they will surely feel horrible when they find about it later on their own. Even if you are honest, it will still be very uncomfortable for them. Don't take my words for it. See for yourself. I am giving examples of one female and a male. Don't forget to read the comments. :
As for me masquerading as a kid, well LOL, I meant to say that I have the same vision of love that I had as a kid. Ofc it was not meant to taken literally. I am not new here and I assumed everybody knows my age at this point. A kid definitely can't write so much.
One simple reminder to be mindful of the words being used would've changed that original post to what I have written here; but that didn't happen. The way that person approached correcting my terribly worded post was completely horrendous and unacceptable. That approach, instead of making me reword my post correctly, pushed me into clarifying how I was not equating the "p" word with what he thought. With the correct form of criticism, the change needed was the removal of the "p" word and a slight restructure of the sentences to provide more clarity. In his words, I identified as a kid and thus was treated as one by him. I wonder what he would when some other man identifies as a woman.
I guess some people are probably used to being aggressive like that and bringing personal lives into their "protests" so not once do they feel like they did any wrong. Well, lessons learned the hard way :-
Part I : Some problems that I have observed and the solutions that I propose.
Problem: There are mothers who take pride in how abusive their sons are. I have personally witnessed how their eyes lit up hearing their son hurl abuses left and right to someone, in person or on call. Wrong.
Solution: Teach your kids to not use slang anywhere. MC, BC is not alright. The slang themselves are derogatory to the females and shouldn't be used in any context. Mothers need to stop fostering this toxicity. Being abusive has nothing positive about it. Mothers need to beat up their sons who dare to foul mouth in front of them.
Problem: Tolerating toxicity. I have seen sons who openly and directly tell their mothers "You are a female and can stay in home 24x7 not us males."
Solution: Unacceptable. Mothers need to be appreciated for what they do. Sons, daughters and husbands need to reduce the workload on mothers so that they can all roam around together. No soul likes captivity and such words must not be uttered by anybody.
Problem: Making only the daughters do the household chores. Sometimes even at the expense of their play time or studies.
Solution: Sons, daughters and husbands need to share the workload. Males shouldn't shy away from roles that are traditionally ascribed to females. Education must be enforced for all genders in equal measure.
Problem: Looking down upon housewives.
Solution: Feminism's objective was to give females the choice, not enforce a narrative. Being housewife is a personal choice that's worthy of just as much respect as anything else. Forcing women to get employed against their will is taking the choice away. If your partner wants that, there is no reason to be disrespectful.
You are welcome to point out more problems and solutions in your replies.
Part - II : I need you to read this too.
If you are one of the members who saw my now infamous post with the "p" word ever so dominant, I have no second thoughts in admitting that it was "the most terribly worded" piece of text "I have ever written" in my entire life. It was as low-effort a post as an educated individual can ever make. And no, I can't get myself to reward that tag personally to any individual regardless of their gender. Neither online, nor offline. Never used that word prior to that post, and I am being absolutely honest when I say that. While my intentions were right, the words were truly totally out of the place. So here it goes, what I meant to write there;
Feminism is responsible for single-handedly changing the course of lives of countless females. They didn't have access to fundamental human rights such as the right to equality, education, vote, personal and financial freedom. It gave them the right to walk away from toxic/failed marriages/relationships. To remarry, without the fear of judgement. Giving them the bodily autonomy and not forcing them to wait till marriage.
Bodily autonomy, yes that word and not feminism is where my critique was. Humans proactively learn from their surroundings, living or non-living; from their everyday experiences as well as interactions. One's surroundings can twist the definition of bodily autonomy, just as it can twist the definition of anything else under the sky. With the exploration of the new "cultures", there is a FOMO that's automatically created among the newer generations. This FOMO certainly drives many people drives many into promiscuity and not their own internal desire or absolute freewill. Humans find strength in groups and one can get into any group for validation.
Though I don't use Reddit much, I've been thorough posts from r/TwoXIndia in the past. One highly upvoted comment had stuck me particularly deep, when a female had written "Men end up getting what they want either way, so jumping into the No Strings Attached was a mistake she would not like to repeat." This comment was basically the backbone of my horribly worded post. If somebody is trying to feel like he/she is earning bodily autonomy or control over the other gender by finding lust instead of love, they are getting practically nothing. If one aims to fight what feminism calls patriarchy, this has nothing to do with it. This is just a lifestyle that people with little self-control adopt as a personal choice. If without external influence, somebody enters and adopts this lifestyle, knowing that if there is anything to be had, it is highs of sensations and nothing meaningful on its own, then surely do what you want. Nobody should be name called for this. It's your life.
At the same time, It is important that one is honest about their life choices to their future long term partner. Because if they are looking for something that you're not, they will surely feel horrible when they find about it later on their own. Even if you are honest, it will still be very uncomfortable for them. Don't take my words for it. See for yourself. I am giving examples of one female and a male. Don't forget to read the comments. :
1. Female:
2. Male:
As for the transgenders, imho they are only looking for means of survival. I have personally seen what kind of men approach them and I am sure the trans people love a life of dignity. They just need to get employment everywhere just like the rest of us. This is what I had in my mind originally. As for me masquerading as a kid, well LOL, I meant to say that I have the same vision of love that I had as a kid. Ofc it was not meant to taken literally. I am not new here and I assumed everybody knows my age at this point. A kid definitely can't write so much.
So that was my original message in the other infamous post. In a civilised community, I had a horribly worded post which ended up making people question my education and worldviews. Given how my post came off as, I don't blame any of you who asked me to learn more.One simple reminder to be mindful of the words being used would've changed that original post to what I have written here; but that didn't happen. The way that person approached correcting my terribly worded post was completely horrendous and unacceptable. That approach, instead of making me reword my post correctly, pushed me into clarifying how I was not equating the "p" word with what he thought. With the correct form of criticism, the change needed was the removal of the "p" word and a slight restructure of the sentences to provide more clarity. In his words, I identified as a kid and thus was treated as one by him. I wonder what he would when some other man identifies as a woman.
I guess some people are probably used to being aggressive like that and bringing personal lives into their "protests" so not once do they feel like they did any wrong. Well, lessons learned the hard way :-
i) That one needs to be absolutely clear in their message in order to not be misunderstood and
ii) Ignore people who forget to be civil with strangers. Just block and move on.
Do share your ideas on uplifting females in every corner of our nation.