How do I prove that I am not part of the conspiracy?

[bssunilreddy]

Can anybody guide me to find out a culprit of which I am being accused even though I wasnt even aware of somebody's where abouts.
But I came to know about who did it and who helped the alleged conspirator as this conspirator is my mother's uncles son.
Also I gathered information that my wifes father's cousin helped the conspirator in doing the conspiracy.
Here from both sides I have conspirators but I am not able to approach them to ask face to face why they did it or who else helped them to do the act?
How do I prove to the victims family that I am not part of the conspiracy?
Please guide me. Thanks.

 

[solo_wing]

Can anybody guide me to find out a culprit of which I am being accused even though I wasnt even aware of somebody's where abouts.
But I came to know about who did it and who helped the alleged conspirator as this conspirator is my mother's uncles son.
Also I gathered information that my wifes father's cousin helped the conspirator in doing the conspiracy.
Here from both sides I have conspirators but I am not able to approach them to ask face to face why they did it or who else helped them to do the act?
How do I prove to the victims family that I am not part of the conspiracy?
Please guide me. Thanks.

without understanding what is the conspiracy ...I am not sure if anyone can suggest anything to help you.

And informing about the conspiracy will open your private life to this forum.

It is difficult choice for you but I will suggest dont discuss your private life.

The best way to deal with such complicated things in life ...from my experience is to come out clear with them and throw those toxic people from you life.

Even at the cost of relations.
We Indians carry to much burden of our relations even when it only gives us negative things in life. One does not have to go through this.

Just my opinion. I hope you are able to come out of this and dont let this issues in life take the best out of you.

 

[bssunilreddy]

without understanding what is the conspiracy ...I am not sure if anyone can suggest anything to help you.

And informing about the conspiracy will open your private life to this forum.

It is difficult choice for you but I will suggest dont discuss your private life.

The best way to deal with such complicated things in life ...from my experience is to come out clear with them and throw those toxic people from you life.

Even at the cost of relations.
We Indians carry to much burden of our relations even when it only gives us negative things in life. One does not have to go through this.

Just my opinion. I hope you are able to come out of this and dont let this issues in life take the best out of you.

My wife is taking my only kid with her instead of giving the kid to me. She is saying that she is treating me well but I am hanging onto the theory of proving myself clear of the conspiracy but my friends who got affected aren't leaving it.

I lived until now looking at my kid because even though I had a wife she didn't live like one or care like one.

Now I am loosing the last straw of hope that is my kid and even I am asking my wife to help me clear my name so that I can live in peace.

 

[blr_p]

without understanding what is the conspiracy ...I am not sure if anyone can suggest anything to help you.

Maybe it's not necessary

How do I prove to the victims family that I am not part of the conspiracy?

Can't prove a negative.

Can only affirm the positive. There are some clues

But I came to know about who did it and who helped the alleged conspirator as this conspirator is my mother's uncles son. cousin

This is one part

Also I gathered information that my wifes father's cousin uncle helped the conspirator in doing the conspiracy.
Here from both sides I have conspirators

That's the second part

but I am not able to approach them to ask face to face why they did it or who else helped them to do the act?

Why's are important to know because they establish intent

Sounds like you've been framed

Whether intentionally or not is unclear

 

[bssunilreddy]

Maybe it's not necessary

Can't prove a negative.

Can only affirm the positive. There are some clues

This is one part

That's the second part

Why's are important to know because they establish intent

Exactly
Why is very important because I also want to know why my friends father was targeted?
Because is it so that I can be implicated easily into it by those who conspired to it or is it just plain coincidence.
But coincidences does not happen as such because there are more than one conspirator who are from my relatives that's why.

The story is that
My friends father who took me to Tirupati venkannas abode and took me to udipi tiffins in 2005 and took care of me as his own son.
Why would I do to him when I didn't even think about my friend or his father ever.

Then in 2014-15 my friends father was implicated in a conspiracy where he might have lost his job so here since I was once his son's friend and my father was a colleague of his wife in the college.

Who ever is accusing me now is thinking that I and my father has the intent to cause harm to my friend and his father.

But here neither me nor my father has no enmity with the said victim. This is why I want to clear my name so that my family will be unburdened of this accusation.

Now neither the 1st conspirator nor the 2nd conspirator is in touch with us directly but I have to plead with my wife and my mother to either of them call either of the conspirators or make me sit with them so that I can have a face to face chat with them and record the conversation and send it to my friend who is my well wisher and know the accusers so that my chat will persuade them to believe neither me nor my family is involved in the said crime.

I was asking my wife and her father since 2022 onwards to take me to the 2nd conspirator who belongs to the ruling party now in AP who was also the ruling party in 2014-15.

But my wife does not show interest or just says that she can't help me in solving this puzzle or put an end to the accusations.

What to do now?
I am loosing my kid in the process?

 

[solo_wing]

I am sorry if i am not being able to understand your point clearly.

But isnt it better that you and your father directly talk to your friend and his father face to face and make them explain that you never meant any harm to them.

Is going through so much as to beg your wife and her father who clearly dont want to help you that necessary . When purpose is just to clear yourself in front of people you already know so well and who have treated you like son before.

Some misunderstanding can be cleared too and if incase you have made some small mistake get that clear with them too . They may able to forgive if the intention was never bad.

Since they are so close to you . They should be able to see the point.

 

[ajeetone]

Don't get offended reading below please.

I've gone through your historical conversation and can say your wife is toxic. She is not going to change, that's just her nature. No amount of begging/whatever can change her. The same applies for those conspirators.
People in real life never changes and it's also very hard to understand why they are doing so.

That being said, you need to take firm decision to take face 2 face with those 2 conspirators and make sure they will get your message clearly. You don't need meditor but can take few supporter with you if necessary.
Related with your friend trust, you need to have calm discussion, show your intention and ask for his advice 'how you can gain confidence from him'.

Last and most important- Don't beat yourself, most of times our life/world don't give a f**k.

 

[bssunilreddy]

I am sorry if i am not being able to understand your point clearly.

But isnt it better that you and your father directly talk to your friend and his father face to face and make them explain that you never meant any harm to them.

Is going through so much as to beg your wife and her father who clearly dont want to help you that necessary . When purpose is just to clear yourself in front of people you already know so well and who have treated you like son before.

Some misunderstanding can be cleared too and if incase you have made some small mistake get that clear with them too . They may able to forgive if the intention was never bad.

Since they are so close to you . They should be able to see the point.

I went to their house and my friends mom never uttered any word of discomfort but it's their relatives maybe who aren't satisfied with the outcome and are suspecting us.

Don't get offended reading below please.

I've gone through your historical conversation and can say your wife is toxic. She is not going to change, that's just her nature. No amount of begging/whatever can change her. The same applies for those conspirators.
People in real life never changes and it's also very hard to understand why they are doing so.

That being said, you need to take firm decision to take face 2 face with those 2 conspirators and make sure they will get your message clearly. You don't need meditor but can take few supporter with you if necessary.
Related with your friend trust, you need to have calm discussion, show your intention and ask for his advice 'how you can gain confidence from him'.

Last and most important- Don't beat yourself, most of times our life/world don't give a f**k.

I wanted to do the same like speaking with the 1st conspirators sons and the 2nd conspirator directly but 1st conspirators house I don't know where to go and 2nd conspirator is residing in Hyderabad.

Though I had the chance to meet the 2nd conspirator when his parents died last month my wife threatened me that they will not let in their house because he now is a very important member of the ruling party.

Now my only chance is to speak with the 1st conspirators sons by persuading my mom by getting their acceptance to meet me or to talk with me by phone.

Last hour or so while I was asleep my wife left my house with my kid not even telling me that she is going. How cruel she is?

My friend used to tell me that he is a deeply religious fellow while I am also the same. So there are wild guesses by those relatives of his that I indulged in black magic to do this.

How stupid of them to believe in such practices where our godd might be different but the message everybody told or spread were the same and that is don't hurt your neighbours or don't even try to think in that way which will do more harm than good.

 

[solo_wing]

I went to their house and my friends mom never uttered any word of discomfort but it's their relatives maybe who aren't satisfied with the outcome and are suspecting us.

I don't know what else to say bro.

It seems very complicated yet very simple. Just need to reasonable person to talk and clear misunderstanding created by surrounding toxic people who don't want your peace for you.

 

[bssunilreddy]

I don't know what else to say bro.

It seems very complicated yet very simple. Just need to reasonable person to talk and clear misunderstanding created by surrounding toxic people who don't want your peace for you.

Yes this is what I 1st conveyed because all of this was one big misunderstanding and that's all.

Update: My mother accepted to my request of taking me to her uncles sons home so that I can directly speak with his son's about the issue and if they open to my queries then the problem will be solved then and there and I will be at peace finally.
I can record the conversation and send it to my friend so that he can do what ever he can with that.

At least finally gods are smiling and are merciful to me.

Now I can ask if 1st conspirators who is my mother's uncles son and his son's have done what everybody is saying and who drove them to such a conspiracy, I mean who is their co-conspirators and such.

 

[solo_wing]

Yes this is what I 1st conveyed because all of this was one big misunderstanding and that's all.

Update: My mother accepted to my request of taking me to her uncles sons home so that I can directly speak with his son's about the issue and if they open to my queries then the problem will be solved then and there and I will be at peace finally.
I can record the conversation and send it to my friend so that he can do what ever he can with that.

At least finally gods are smiling and are merciful to me.

Now I can ask if 1st conspirators who is my mother's uncles son and his son's have done what everybody is saying and who drove them to such a conspiracy, I mean who is their co-conspirators and such.

I am happy to see that things are working out for you.

 

[TEUser2K1]

I think OP have to practice meditation and Machiavilinism.

 

[bssunilreddy]

My mother is insisting that her uncles son and his son's are innocent and she isn't accepting again to take me to their house.
Though I am saying that our family will be accused.
These old people and their stupid beliefs.

 

[Emperor]

One who don't trust you (and that's why they accused/blame you, isn't it) you can never able to prove yourself innocent, leave the matter and the family/friends/person too for ever. (as now they all will try to harm you all possible way as they think you are conspirator, for safe side never dare to trust those person again in any condition or you will be ruined.)

Don't think too much about it and live your life with dignity & happily with those who trust you from bottom of their heart.

NOTE: 99.99% Women NEVER EVER going to accept blame on their maternal side of the family/members.

 

[PunkX 75]

Don't get offended reading below please.

I've gone through your historical conversation and can say your wife is toxic. She is not going to change, that's just her nature. No amount of begging/whatever can change her.

This is something to think about. You have also been physically hit, if I remember correctly.

You're an advocate by profession, and I'm sure you'll become stronger in every situation.

I wish you the very best and happiness, always.

 

[Pyception]

Consider the recent instances of violence against men have been reported in the media. Maybe I'm reading too much but there is shift in mentality of society.