One Bedroom Flat - Story by an anonymous Indian SE.

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As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in Software Engineer and joined a company based in USA, the land of braves and opportunity. When I arrived in the USA, it was as if a dream had come true.

Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I would be staying in this country for about Five years in which time I would have earned enough money to settle down in India.

My father was a government employee and after his retirement, the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom flat. I wanted to do some thing more than him. I started feeling homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone cards. Two years passed, two years of Burgers at McDonald’s and pizzas and discos and 2 years watching the foreign exchange rate getting happy whenever the Rupee value went down.

Finally I decided to get married. Told my parents that I have only 10 days of holidays and everything must be done within these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in the cheapest flight. Was jubilant and was actually enjoying hopping for gifts for all my friends back home.If I miss anyone then there will be talks. After reaching home I spent home one week going through all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting shorter I was forced to select one candidate.

In-laws told me,to my surprise, that I would have to get married in 2-3 days, as I will not get anymore holidays. After the marriage, it was time to return to USA, after giving some money to my parents and telling the neighbors to look after them, we returned to USA.

My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India increased to twice in a week sometimes 3 times a week. Our savings started diminishing. After two more years we started to have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl,were gifted to us by the almighty. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children.

Every year I decide to go to India . But part work part monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting India was a distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a message that my parents were seriously sick. I tried but I couldn’t get any holidays and thus could not go to India.

The next message I got was my parents had passed away and as there was no one to do the last rights the society members had done whatever they could. I was depressed. My parents had passed away without seeing their grand children.

After couple more years passed away, much to my children’s dislike and my wife’s joy we returned to India to settle down. I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my savings were short and the property prices had gone up during all these years. I had to return to the USA.

My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to stay in India. My 2 children and I returned to USA after promising my wife I would be back for good after two years. Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an American and my son was happy living in USA . I decided that had enough and wound-up every thing and returned to

India. I had just enough money to buy a decent 02 bedroom flat in a well-developed locality. Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the flat is for the routine visit to the nearby temple. My faithful wife has also left me and gone to the holy abode. Sometimes I wondered was it worth all this? My father, even after staying in India, had a house to his name and I too have the same nothing more. I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM.

Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing. This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these children are losing their values and culture because of it. I get occasional cars from my children asking I am alright. Well at least they remember me. Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbors again who will be performing my last rights, God Bless them.

But the question still remains ‘was all this worth it?’

I am still searching for an answer…………….!!!!
 
I am just in class 12 now. I did think about it . i have a similar kind of situation . But inside i know , i may be able to go a IVY league college , but still I don't want to go far away . This isn't worth . My parents are 50 years old now . I might be able to make a bigger fortune abroad , The real challenge would be to make a fortune here in india itself and that is what i will try to make . Over this it is my parents who gave me everything . It's my turn now
 
Currently the world is global and when you work you have to travel all over the world to different locations... Being confined to just India wont be a wise choice... Even NRIs are moving back to India now for jobs and work... APAC is the new market now with each big MNC looking to expand here ... USA dreams are somewhat not that attractive anymore..... Just make wise career choices
 
Why not take your parents there?

Why have an arranged marriage in 10 days?

Why not adopt the culture of where you are moving to?

Why return at the end?

After spending so much time in USA, why not take up the citizenship, retire there and take advantage of the facilities they offered?

This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these children are losing their values and culture because of it.

Sorry, but this guy wasnt meant for USA in the 1st place
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If this was meant to be fiction, its good

If this was meant to be thought provoking, its full of more holes than
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If his paygrade was better this story would have been completely different.

Also never heard of a company that doesn't give a leave when your blood relation has demised.

BTW its stupidity to go to countries like US and UK to save up. With their tac structure it makes more sense to apply for citizenship, of course unless you get paid a lot. For monies we have tax free countries in the gulf where you can save up almost 60-70%.

Nice story BTW.
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Received this in an email years back. Sad story but doesn't necessarily have to apply to everyone.
 
Life away from home and your loved ones sucks. I mean its fine that we get time to enjoy, get freedom and we can live the life the way we want. But after some days,months,years we start feeling lonely and boring. I stay at pune due to work and my family stays at mumbai. I just wait for the weekend so i can go to mumbai and meet my frnds and family. The distance is less but going home on weekends is like re-charging myself for the next 4-5 days working in a different location. So i can understand who works abroad or in different states where visiting home/loved ones is a difficult task.

So if i even get a chance to go to USA, i will never go there
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Life away from home and your loved ones sucks. I mean its fine that we get time to enjoy, get freedom and we can live the life the way we want. But after some days,months,years we start feeling lonely and boring. I stay at pune due to work and my family stays at mumbai. I just wait for the weekend so i can go to mumbai and meet my frnds and family. The distance is less but going home on weekends is like re-charging myself for the next 4-5 days working in a different location. So i can understand who works abroad or in different states where visiting home/loved ones is a difficult task.

So if i even get a chance to go to USA, i will never go there
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I completely understand what you say. Been there done that. Stayed in Pune for 5+ years shuttling on weekends between Pune and Mumbai. The only motivation of coming to office on a monday morning is that Friday is just 5 days away and i shall be back in Mumbai for weekend.

But currently destiny has brought me to Uncle Sam's land.
 
A Software engineer who coudnt afford to go back home? Couldnt afford to buy a house after working in the US for all these years? And no vacations?

I find that extremely hard to believe.
 
Its an old one, keep circulating obviously. IIRC I read it in 2006-7 time frame.

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If its surfacing again; I'll say US really do not want us(Indians); to apply for H1 and this is an psychological attempt by them.

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Life away from home and your loved ones sucks. I mean its fine that we get time to enjoy, get freedom and we can live the life the way we want. But after some days,months,years we start feeling lonely and boring. I stay at pune due to work and my family stays at mumbai. I just wait for the weekend so i can go to mumbai and meet my frnds and family. The distance is less but going home on weekends is like re-charging myself for the next 4-5 days working in a different location. So i can understand who works abroad or in different states where visiting home/loved ones is a difficult task.

So if i even get a chance to go to USA, i will never go there
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When you are a couple of 100 km from home, that feeling is there. Esp. since you keep going back so you dont get used to staying away

When you are a couple of 1000 km from home, its not so much of an issue. You know you can go back only 1-2 times/year and you adjust accordingly.
 
This story is already going viral in FB, dont know from where it started
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Some proof would have been better
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Moral of the story: Use Skype PC to PC call to call family
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, If your kid grow up in US dont expect them to have the culture of Indian kids, even in India the generation is going same way, they leave their parents after getting good job
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,& learn same basic tips to manage money, Save first then spend rather than spend first and save

and yeah in today's world everyone knows to manage money, if you go by the same way like Spending much more than your earning and saving none, then you will end to same thing....no matter if your live in LONDON or KENYA

In India too i had seen many relatives, who being posted in good goverment job, spending their whole life in bars, spending 50% of their salary on drinks, and even after at last stage of thier job, they hadnt made much property...
 
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