Why is life like this?

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I have been faced with this situation many many times now. Why cuz I try to make the situation better for all people, and end up being called names instead.

Issue at hand:

Does all support have to be vocal? Does all appreciation hv to be expressed in flowery words in front of the guy concerned? Cant it be just subtle words, some words of appreciationg instead of going "WTH! man u rock, all others suck." Does all matter have to be white and black? Surely no one is perfect, and if that is true, how can some people claim that THEY are entirely correct, and OTHER is entirely wrong? After all TALI eek HAATH se NEHI bajti.

Many many many times I have called "2 faced guy" by people I have been concerned about some time of the other, offline or online, because I have been forced to play 2 roles, often having to mediate between 2 quarelling parties, trying to make peace. In the end, they become friends, discuss what I all had told them (totally forgetting that they were behaving like kids by fighting forcing me to say such things) and call me "2 faced." Well guys, if that makes u any happier. I am 2 faced.

Another thing. I cant really get the point of people copy pasting private conversation without the guy involved having any idea about that happening. Didnt that guy show some confidence in you by entrusting you with such details which obviously are of sensitive nature. Fine you dont give shat and copy paste. Mind you, you are doing 2 things:

- you are breaking that other guys trust.
- you are communicating the very fact that "you cannot be trusted" to the guy you are leaking the convo to. What goes around comes around....

It is as cheap a behavior as people making MMS videos of private moments of people who obviously trusted u a BIT too much. Their bad, you are NOT trust worthy.

And some people come to me and say "I CANNOT CHANGE." Well dude, thats the saddest attitude anyone can wear. What do you mean you cannot change. Ok, lets assume that in 1 case you were wronged, but if the whole society/community is against you, surely you MUST reflect within urself to see "Kya mere mein kuch problem hei?" Otherwise, you are just inviting trouble. Not from someone, but the trouble will play out in a very intricate manner to u. What goes around, DOES come around.

Well the RANT of a disgruntled guy ends here. I am not referring to any particular incident or someone, but I did type it here, cuz I had to say it to someone. I have tried saying it to my girlfriend before but couldnt muster the courage of facing a smile+giggle+"you are so cute." look so instead, posted it here.

Please dont mind guys.

Regards,

Karan
 
Come on Karan...

In life we come across some people who are "Bad" and they try to even change your character...

Being "Strong" is about Standing tall and not getting carried away...

I'm not a philosopher but you need to relax man. Take time off TE/TMG and get into other offline activities as well. Pickup a sport or something to play outdoors, it really helps..:)

Best wishes,

Anish.
 
Anish said:
Come on Karan...

In life we come across some people who are "Bad" and they try to even change your character...

Being "Strong" is about Standing tall and not getting carried away...

I'm not a philosopher but you need to relax man. Take time off TE/TMG and get into other offline activities as well. Pickup a sport or something to play outdoors, it really helps..:)

Best wishes,

Anish.
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lol.... u make me laugh. thanks.

FYI, i have a sport, namely volleyball, i hv hobby (called ocing), i hv a life (called nitu, my gf), hv job offers from 2 companies right now, hv the best parents imaginable, hv IQ enuf to hv valid debates with giants like Blady, Funky and Darky, and i hv the best friends/teammates in the world. we just tend to get carried away everyonce in a while.

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hmm karan, remember what i told you regarding trying to please everyone all the time? if someone is not willing to change, why are u so keen on changing, drop it and move on, you'll be doing urself a favor more than anything else....
 
well karan .. i've been called 2 faced guy a lot o times becuz i always try to mediate things in actual life .. i'd say rather try to focus on ur priorities sometimes its hard to say a no but say no with a smile it really helps sometimes.
 
OT: you guys at TE are great.

when i was depressed you pulled me out of it.

i now play all kinds of FPS games.

now you guys are helping Karan.

3 cheers for TE: Hip Hip Hurray, Hip Hip Hurray, Hip Hip Hurray.

TE ROCKS BIG TIME.
 
Well, if that person is a true friend, he/she will understand and realise your value sooner or later.

If he doesnt, then I guess he was never worth your affection(please no puns please.... Am being seriosu here :no: ) for him in the first place.

And friendship is accepting the person for who he is. dont try to change the person. You became friends with that person for who he is. right??

And if he has changed since and become rude, arrogant or whatever, whatever, then I guess you have to weigh the situation and see how much your friendship means to you. Try accepting him as he is(even though he has changed since the time you became friends).

Also, everyone have their negative and positive points. I get really irritated with one of my best friends due to his attitude and superior attitude. It really gets on my nberves at times. but then I think of his other good points and I feel thankful for having a friend like him.

Do think of all the aspects of your friend's character. And try to accept the bad things along with the good....

Take care
 
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