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Daily Motivation and Self-help
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mayank4823
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I started jogging after 2 years because I am about to go on a trek. I took up trekking in 2021 and since then it's been my only therapy. Nothing else worked. So I did 4 treks in 1.5 years. I love statistics and data and it is keeping me motivated to maintain (or beat) the distance I cover in a set amount of time. Right now doing 3.75 kms in 35 mins. Aiming to touch 5kms in the next 30 days.
I am having a hard time moving on. Its been 4 years since I lost my 2nd family (who adopted me) to COVID. Lost my 1st when I was 7 days. Since 2021 there have been small patches of happiness ( mostly materialistic ones but they keep me occupied ) but nothing has helped me move on. The old times were so good and its addictive to keep thinking about them. I lost my first teacher last week and it was like a brutal punch which reminded me how I am continuously losing people. I never succumbed to Alcohol because I thought it's necessary to feel the pain and not escape it. There's only anger that this happened to me all of a sudden and less sadness.
Sorry for sharing too much info. I really just don't care about people judging me anymore.
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enc0dex264
Forerunner
Try the Couch 2 5k app to systematically train your runs.. i recommend starting from week 4 or 5.. since you can already easily cover 3.5km.
bigb123
Galvanizer
@mayank4823 Stay strong, brother, and hold on tight. The world can be harsh, and life is never easy. Everyone is fighting their own battles, and we have no choice but to confront them. Better days are ahead. Hope is the key to overcoming hardship.
nitin_g3
Herald
@mayank4823 stay strong, "Don't give up" is the only mantra. You've come this far despite all the hardship you've faced, great times are waiting for you ahead.
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I don't think you should let go of good times of the past because they are the key to any recovery. So cherish them.
Otherwise you will only be left with the loss and the bad feeling that accompanies and it will come to dominate your moods maybe even define an otherwise good experience.
Let the memories of the good times carry more weight than the bad feelings. It will be easier to move on.
This way you actively diminish the importance and impact of the bad times. This is your first step to recovery.
Your focus is on the losing and not the good times you had with those people.
Losing starts to define your experience rather than than the more important relationships you had with these people. Must have been important relationships if losing them impacted you so.
At the beginning when the pain is intense it helps to take or do something that will help blunt the intensity. Otherwise you end up suffering longer. But this needs some care & management.
Otherwise you end up suppressing things and burying them instead of confronting and accepting.
There is a fine balance to be had here. You aren't erasing the negative. Just diminishing it to the point of irrelevance.
Normal. Think of the good times you had with them. Imagine they are with you instead of gone. I've always found that helped deal with loss. Its a form of delusion for some but I think the positive effects of blunting hard reality helps on an emotional level.
The saying people never die or you never lose anyone is because they live in our hearts & memories.
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Willpower is your best friend. You have a great degree of it, brother. I really respect the fact that you decided to face your demons head-on rather than take the easy way out, via substance abuse.
More power to you.
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nick.knack91011
Forerunner
Te is your family, we are your family.
We are born / adopted by a family, but in life we have to make our ownfamily and that's where our hobbies , our interests our friends come in.
We are your family, Te is your family . Dont worry ulp be fine bro
I dealt with stress by playing pen fights ( anyone remember them ) at class
bssunilreddy
Luminary
This decrease of testosterone levels have been noticed by comparing with neanderthal men to modern humans. I read about this in NGC once and thought because of micro plastics and the contaminated food we are eating and stress levels we put due to our jobs are all leading to this situation.
One day will come in future when we may not procreate normally but by that time advanced medicine will enable us to give birth outside of the womb.
This also I read in a NGC article.
I mean not in the immediate future but some 100 years into the future.
What do you mean future? It's now. I don't have the stats but observing, roughly about a third of men and women can't get pregnant without medical help.
Tracer_Bullet
Herald
Nothing new. Steroids, IVF are old tech. It's just more people need the interventions now.wow, we can do that too ? Medical science has really progressed.
It's OT. This can be branched out to a separate thread.
Tracer_Bullet
Herald
man i was joking. But i guess that's possible in a way since we can change gender ( ie male pregnancy ...)