Losing keys before marriage ?? Premarital key!! In todays time in india !!

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I find may people out here got it wrong. I never mentioned that I want to have sex and should I lose my virginity.

And @sabby : fight was on coming to college when not feeling well and not on sex :P

My temper is really bad and when it comes to health I don't compromise. And when friends saw that they all crowed like people in market and then the old bla bla thing. They didn't even know why we had a fight.

I just wanted to know how many people have gone through it, what are there experiences, what was their reaction on encounter, and atlast how many people on TE are really in to helping other members out with there queries.

It a technical forum I know. But it do have a general talk column. And where else out find so many men from different fields, places and age for collecting data of such kind.
 
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princeoo7 said:
I find may people out here got it wrong. I never mentioned that I want to have sex and should I lose my virginity.

And sabby : fight was on coming to college when not feeling well and not on sex :P

My temper is really bad and when it comes to health I don't compromise. And when friends saw that they all crowed like people in market and then the old bla bla thing. They didn't even know why we had a fight.

I just wanted to know how many people have gone through it, what are there experiences, what was their reaction on encounter, and atlast how many people on TE are really in to helping other members out with there queries.

It a technical forum I know. But it do have a general talk column. And where else out find so many men from different fields, places and age for collecting data of such kind.
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NO, no one got it wrong, your thread tittle says it all, now that people have commented on it you might be feeling awkward.

believe me the biggest stress buster is SEX & not REVITAL, once you have gone through it, like i said you guys will get to know whether its LUST or LOVE.

if its love, the fight will be gone for ever & even you fight, THE MAKING UP PART IS THE BESTEST EXPERIENCE ONE CAN HAVE :)
 
Usually in todays world or say generation, either you want a gf just coz your all friends have it and even if not then too as a craze you need one.
Its all competition going on. :annoyed:

Eg: say you xyz friend got a gf 6 months back and still they didnt sleep with each other and on another hand you got a gf and you instantly did the job...so you can easily tease your male pal that "since 6 months u did nothing and being late i did everything in no time".
This is kind of competition or so called show offs going on inspired by the west and movies/porn and what not!! :facepalm:

And as soon once a guy/gal finds their match, they cannot wait to have sex...:eek: Desperecy is running so high in todays young that I wonder do they just want to be together for sake of sex or also do they ever love or just bed love????:P

Also, boys keep talking all that shit things in group that who did what and how good was she. Its all pathetic but then who cares. Everybody wants to show who did for the max time and how big is big!!

And girls too arent behind now, they too are every desperate to have sex and wanting a bf as similar situation and talks go in their groups too.;)

Yet there are few good couples who are gonna get marry anytime but keep sex only for marriage.
They are not affected by the so called dirt cheap competition. They just listen, trust and decide in themselves whats good for them and ignore the rest crap. :)

...as said..barking dogs will never bite
so you decide...either keep your gf away from all this and speak openly with her...or if you wish to sleep then do it but only if u both mutually agree and gonna gt marry...
 
Taking into consideration that we Indians aren't sexually active and open about our sex life until our late teens, i.e. 18~19, i think i can safely say that its pretty normal what you're going through. I'm not going to hand out advise because this is something you need to decide for yourself. You're 20 and i honestly feel that you're old enough to make decisions. Don't misunderstand me; unlike some TE members i won't judge you based on the quality of the grammar in your posts :)

If there's anything i can say to make you feel better than here's something ridiculously funny that i went through only recently. My own cousins husband; a well-spoken, well-educated man in his late 30s who'd moved back to India after 15 years in the US; asked me how many women i'd slept since i was interested in his niece. I was taken aback at first but then remembered that he's after all an Indian and not to forget family. So trust me when i say that what you're going through is completely normal :)
 
If you both really love each other, then you have no need to sleep with her. And what i say about you is you are in true love. If you are not then you wouldn't have posted this here. But you are in a little bit confusion because of your friends. Most of the friends you have seems to be some showoff guys. you have no need to listen to them.


Pre-marital sex is not a sin and i'm not opposing it. But what i suggest is to wait till the marriage.
Because that makes your relationship much sweeter. If you enjoy all the things which you are supposed to have after marriage, the after marriage life will not be much interesting.


If you are strong enough in mind, stop thinking about your friends words.Honestly i suugest you to be strong and hold tight.


Long time relationship is better than short time entertainment.


Don't make the definition of LOVE as
(L)ust
(O)f
(V)arious
(E)ntertainments
 
So far, the only sensible posts have been that of sabby's

For the sake of self-respect, please keep your private life private. Discussing sex in general is one thing. But discussing YOUR sex life is another. In can lead to embarrassing revelations about your own character.
 
I never discussed my private life her. Just told that we are facing such question.

Was confused why do every one think so.

And thought this title appropriate by my prospective.

Tough forgot that it also means something like this where people will think at I am asking advice on losing virginity :banghead:

Still some good piece of advice I found that could help me for having a clean, healthy and lust free relation.
Based on real world environment, reading such post boosts positivity for clean relationship.
 
If others are getting in your "physical" relationship, they don't deserve to be your friends anymore. They are making fun of your relation. You have a sex or not.. It's none of their business. I also have friends. I have been in a relation since past four years, they never asked me such things, neither her friends did. Maybe because almost all of them are in a relation as well.

The reasons why they are concerned of "personal" things -
1. None of them are in a relation with anybody to know your feelings after facing such questions.
2. They are making fun of your relation.

Keep your personal life as PERSONAL as possible. Tell your friends not to involve in your personal things anymore. Don't be a bully.

About loosing virginity before marriage, it's all your call. If both of you have no problems at all, you are free to do whatever you want. It's all about mutual understandings, happiness. You can't ruin your relations for someone else who shouldn't be interfering in your relations. Live a happy life together. Don't even think / bother about someone else's conclusions, it's your life. You both know your relation well. :-) All you need to do is to make her believe that you are in a relation because you love her, not for sex.
 
From sex and masturbation to loosing virginity and marriage probs read Mirror newspaper under Dr.Watsa column and you will notice where India is heading, You will find questions been asked by 12yr old - 92yrs old then be it anything relating to sex.....;)
 
nRiTeCh said:
From sex and masturbation to loosing virginity and marriage probs read Mirror newspaper under Dr.Watsa column and you will notice where India is heading, You will find questions been asked by 12yr old - 92yrs old then be it anything relating to sex.....;)
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I would love to see that column removed from Mirror. BS questions and even more BS answers sometimes.
 
Just my personal opinion- I think that we are too fussy about this Sex and V thingy. It's not as big as it seems to be and people poke too much into other's personal lives.
Sometimes I feel sex is like having food. You need it for a healthy living, you want to have little variety, so many psychological and physiological benefits.
Having said, we should NEVER hurt anyone's feeling.
For OP- Don't get affected by your friends or so called society, do what you feel is right. They will ultimately shut up. I don't know how old you are but don't think about marriage and all. We never know what life has in store for us. Live it the way it comes.
 
I still Wonder how this thread has not been Closed. Proabably this is not the RIght Forum to Discuss about Relationships and Bullshit.
Hey OP, If you want to continue such discussions you can Do it at a offtopic Forum called sushubhbroadbandforum. There he will answer all your questions. jerk
 
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