Losing keys before marriage ?? Premarital key!! In todays time in india !!
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When the forum started most of the guys were barely out of the teens, they are now 25+ . and sex is definitely on their minds
I was talking about this thread
TE is very restrictive even for a tech forum when it comes to the content posted here (in General Talk). I keep seeing my posts get deleted a lot of the time even though on other forums like Anandtech Off Topic they would be perfectly acceptable. And we keep talking about how screwed up censorship in our country is. This forum itself is a good example of the mentality of the people in this country. I'm not even talking about posts which contain content like personal or ad hominem attacks.
I can't say I disagree completely though. Anandtech Off Topic can be a cesspool sometimes. But then again, I think the mods should re-evaluate their censorship policy at least a little bit.
I can't say I disagree completely though. Anandtech Off Topic can be a cesspool sometimes. But then again, I think the mods should re-evaluate their censorship policy at least a little bit.
Few facts about keys.
1. Not all keys work with all locks. It is unsafe to try out your key with every lock you come across. Use discretion.
2. Sometimes a key and a lock will require some form of lubrication to work properly. Engine oil is often used.
3. Rusty keys do not work well at all. Neither do rusty locks. Proper maintenance is required and sometimes the pair must be activated to ensure they are in working order and good health.
4. Since keys are personal belongings, no one needs to know which locks they open or can open or have opened. It's something between the lock and the key.
5. If you lose the keychain before marriage don't worry. The key doesn't need a chain to function properly.
1. Not all keys work with all locks. It is unsafe to try out your key with every lock you come across. Use discretion.
2. Sometimes a key and a lock will require some form of lubrication to work properly. Engine oil is often used.
3. Rusty keys do not work well at all. Neither do rusty locks. Proper maintenance is required and sometimes the pair must be activated to ensure they are in working order and good health.
4. Since keys are personal belongings, no one needs to know which locks they open or can open or have opened. It's something between the lock and the key.
5. If you lose the keychain before marriage don't worry. The key doesn't need a chain to function properly.
TheIndian
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Why would censoring that make sense? Don't nerds deserve to enjoy too ?
My question was never related to me and my gal should lose our virginity or not.
It was my people start talking or influencing us in our case and other couple in their case about SEX ????
Do we get in relation just for sake of having SEX ???
Means is SEX everything in relation ???
Specially In a new relationship like ours, people are expecting us to have action straight away ????
It was my people start talking or influencing us in our case and other couple in their case about SEX ????
Do we get in relation just for sake of having SEX ???
Means is SEX everything in relation ???
Specially In a new relationship like ours, people are expecting us to have action straight away ????
Sex is certainly not everything. But I think its importance is downplayed by a lot of people, especially in India, because of the negative connotation associated with it. It's almost like when you were a kid and you would watch a kissing scene in a movie with your friends and everyone would go, "cheeee!" and cover their eyes. Even adults seem to behave that way sometimes.
How you go about having sex is completely up to you and your partner. You don't need people's expectations to sway you in that regard.
Personally, I wouldn't get into a relationship just to have sex. But a part of why I would get into a relationship is to have sex.
If sex means nothing, why marry someone of the opposite sex? Just marry your best friend of the same sex and be in "pure love" for the rest of your happy married life. *This isn't directed at you OP, just saying.*
I will describe a little what I think !
People think having sex is good and they are right on their own place but isn't its different in everyone case????
Its like giving same medicines with same dose to every patients without knowing what health problem they have and nature of the patient.
People think having sex is good and they are right on their own place but isn't its different in everyone case????
Its like giving same medicines with same dose to every patients without knowing what health problem they have and nature of the patient.
What exactly do you think about sex? In your view, what is its importance in life and relationships in general?
eggman
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If you and partner are happy to remain virgin then no is stopping you to remain so.
If you're friends are annoying you and asking about it, just say it's personal and don't entertain.
I bet half of your friends are only saying it out of jealousy.
However I must agree with OinkBoink here, sex plays an important part ( if not the most important part) in a relationship.
Except for cultural made natural moral judgement of good and bad , there's only gain in having some.
A couple can have all the sweet dates and all the sweet moments, which are essential (probably even more than plain sex) in a relationship btw, but it won't bond two people as close as sharing an intimate moment together.
Again, it's not pointed towards OP.
If you're friends are annoying you and asking about it, just say it's personal and don't entertain.
I bet half of your friends are only saying it out of jealousy.
However I must agree with OinkBoink here, sex plays an important part ( if not the most important part) in a relationship.
Except for cultural made natural moral judgement of good and bad , there's only gain in having some.
A couple can have all the sweet dates and all the sweet moments, which are essential (probably even more than plain sex) in a relationship btw, but it won't bond two people as close as sharing an intimate moment together.
Again, it's not pointed towards OP.
The funny thing is, a lot of Indian men like to appear "moral" and "cultured" when it comes to sex but they have no problem going to a brothel if they're not satisfied with their wife. Oh, the hypocrisy.
The amount of attention item songs and porn get in this country is a testament to the fact that we are a nation that does not embrace its sexuality. And a major reason behind this is that no one is willing to talk about it. It's almost as though it's something unnatural.
Going further, this also filters down into our perception of gay people (or people whose sexuality does not conform to the norm). If sex itself is such a taboo, giving gay people their rights is one hell of a feat, even though things are improving in this regard.
Remember there was that silly law (dunno if it's still there) where the police could arrest gay people because they were indulging in "unnatural sex acts" ?
P.S. I shit-you-not, a guy was booked under the law for indulging in sex acts with a friggin' chicken! It was on NDTV once.
The amount of attention item songs and porn get in this country is a testament to the fact that we are a nation that does not embrace its sexuality. And a major reason behind this is that no one is willing to talk about it. It's almost as though it's something unnatural.
Going further, this also filters down into our perception of gay people (or people whose sexuality does not conform to the norm). If sex itself is such a taboo, giving gay people their rights is one hell of a feat, even though things are improving in this regard.
Remember there was that silly law (dunno if it's still there) where the police could arrest gay people because they were indulging in "unnatural sex acts" ?
P.S. I shit-you-not, a guy was booked under the law for indulging in sex acts with a friggin' chicken! It was on NDTV once.
I never denied sex nor willing too.
But u only tell, right now we completed 6 months of relation. Is this enough time to know each other very well ???
And this thing started like after one month after we got committed! !!!
So just go straight away for sex with in one month ????
Its ok for guys not serious but don't u think it can destory someone else life.
I don't know if is there a way to know about boy loosing his virginity , but what about girls ???
Its ok if our relation goes well and we get married but what if we don't and she loose it with me ?
Will the other guy except her so easily ???
If we would have had a poll on this, I don't think there may be many out there who are ready to except a girl who slept with some one else before as a life partner easy and even if he, dought will be always stay as a cloud on this mind.
Applicable to this modern time or which ever time we would discuss.
Sorry if sound a bit rude but I think it depends on nature of the people in relation.
I have seen people both boys and girls lossing it and later on moving their own path.
But have even seen people ended up at hospitals after getting apart.
eggman
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Ya I agree.
There's a bunch of M0rons who have all weird stone age thinking about sex in general.
I know a family where girls are forbidden to enter the living room when they have their periods on. What a m0ron.
The problem starts with the mentality of parents . Most of parents never talk about sex with their children , leading them to have unnatural look towards sex.
They don't treat it as a natural part of living and some kind of holy grail of a thing.
As I said, what I wrote was not specifically directed towards you. And no, you aren't being rude.
You know what I would do? I wouldn't have actual sex (involving penetration of any sort) with my girl because indeed whether you like to accept it or not, there is some stigma associated with a non-virgin (she is perceived as "second hand property"). But I would do everything else, if you get my drift. So even if she does get another guy, she and he can feel happy about the fact that they did it first with someone they "love" and someone who would stick with them (I don't think it's necessary for everyone to agree with this view, it's up to them).
But even this is up to you. The level of sexual intimacy you have is completely up to both of you.
Depends on nature of people in relation. There are people those don't get affected with any thing going in their life and can carry leaving without prblems later on.
But there are oppsite too...
I think first knowing each other is important the that of directly getting to the action.
Its comfortable this way and do take a time to understand if we are with right people or not.
Its better then getting blamed for screwing someones life
eggman
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I never denied sex nor willing too.
But u only tell, right now we completed 6 months of relation. Is this enough time to know each other very well ???
And this thing started like after one month after we got committed! !!!
So just go straight away for sex with in one month ????
That totally depends on the person. It can take a week or years before a couple is ready.
If you guys are not at that level of commitment ,then dont do anything.
Will the other guy except her so easily ???
If we would have had a poll on this, I don't think there may be many out there who are ready to except a girl who slept with some one else before as a life partner easy and even if he, dought will be always stay as a cloud on this mind.
Unfortunately, I have to agree with. Most guys would prefer virgin girls as their wife as if she she is some kind of car. I personally disgust such low level mentality.
This is the root of major issues. This encourages girls to remain virgin and not living their life to full extent.
(Not applicable to me, as I would actually prefer a girl who has had seen and experienced life and not someone who has been caged and locked by society to be released on wedding day).
And this wont change until Indian culture opens up to Sex and guys get more sex and thus can see that it's totally natural for girls to have few partners too before marriage and there is nothing wrong with it.
(Infact this would spice up your bedroom life, as she would have some tricks and tips up her sleeves
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