As a personal example, I chose not to get married/have kids
Why man because of seeing the rising trend of adulterous relationships by women and divorces resulting as a result?
I have experienced both trust me this has become part of my life.
I was made to sit in the home because my wife going to office in the outskirts of the city by my parents and it resulted to disastrous consequences. I could not engage in lawyer profession as we shifted to 30 kms from city which was 1 km from Infosys campus.
I sacrificed my profession and life for the sake of the family yet if I need any help they would just tell me to keep quiet for the sake of my child nowadays. Before it was for the sake of my new wife's job.
Word of Advice: Don't listen to parents or wife if you get any good job offer just for the sake of wife and kid. You can enjoy your work while they can live anywhere.
In my hometown, in my own colony my Neighbors sons and daughters went to abroad for job and left their kids with their parents. After they got well settled they came after 2 years and took the kids to abroad with them.
Even after seeing this my parents always said that I should play my role as a watchman but in the end, working women always will find ways to be unfaithful to their husbands. You know for what. Money & gold and luxurious mansions and expensive cars.
Let us assume I am worth 3 crores then they would want more like 10 crores or 25 crores to begin with. Men from such rich families all are playboys as they don't reveal the truth. They would have farm houses around the city and in another cities around the state where they use these palatial bungalows for their carnal desires. In the end victims of them would keep on doing abortions not to be discovered by their poor husbands. Those rich bastards would always tell their lovers that they will marry them but it won't happen.
Since I have good repertoire with High Court in my beginning years when I went there in a sad mood, standing counsel of police were having tea in court canteen along with my colleagues. When I said about adultery they simply gave me 7 days time and gave an entire record of 5 year period episodes with 2 rich playboys. Their call records, even videos, photos and everything. All the high court colleagues came to my marriage in 2009 but felt deeply saddened by knowing this.
My parents got a well educated girl from a poor family but she got rich relatives because her father lost all the money, jewels and car, tractor , agricultural lands for gambling. My father said since they were rich once and have become poor now and since she has seen both sides of the coin she will be a good wife.
I helped her get a job in Infosys and in Central govt companies. End result is I was betrayed while my kid became motherless after divorce because even before the lady judge of family court pronounced verdict my wife declared she will give custody of my 6 years kid to me and my parents.
After an year after the divorce while I shifted to my home town she again came with her father and took my child and told her all her properties are hers and my kid should go with her. But my child put only 1 condition and that is if we both can live together she will come and stay in Hyderabad. I have to accept to it since my parents started crying seeing my kid. Again I remarried in front of my parents, my uncle and aunt and my wife's father all her brothers. You know what they started to spread in her village as for the cause for divorce before, I am mental and I shout a lot and I was taking medicines even before marriage in 2009 and that my parents hid the fact and destroyed her life. Even her own sisters husband advised her before her 2nd marriage not to marry me. Her sisters husband used our family connections for his books business for 4 straight years and never gave me a dime even though they promised me to give 25 paise share if he begins the business. His classmate is my wife's 1st lover and he has several paper making units in Hyderabad. He is a widower with 2 kids but could not marry my wife because he was compelled to marry a 18 years old girl because she became pregnant and she is his father's friends daughter while that bastard was 42 years old.This 18 years old girl filed a rape case and the judge gave a option if he marries her there won't be any charges. She isn't rich but poor. 2nd fellow is 26 years old server admin in Deloitte and he has properties in Mumbai worth 10-15 crores. My wife was 32 years old at that time. Both men didn't marry her. In the end because of her continuous abortions at the outskirts of the city in a hospital she damaged her fallopian tubes and reproductive system. 2nd fellow wanted to have children but not by IVF but through natural means.
Since 2013 I was asking her to give me another child but she refused and in 2018 I asked her again because she was asking me which IVF centre is good and I thought it's for having a baby for me.
Now she is good but when I ask for money for my PC upgrade then she would hit me so bad that I cry and shout in distress. If I shout she will tell me to take tablets. Then she will call my sisters, my parents, my aunt's and tell them to tell me to take tablets because since she got a respectable position now in TN if I shout it does not look good in her office.These are the same Solian 200mg which I started to take from 2011 onwards and my marital life became non existent. I just become a robot or a doll like we see in mental hospitals.
In Hyderabad there are 10k employees in her company and almost everybody when they meet me they look at me with mercy. But one uncle could not contain his anger even when his wife tried to stop him by telling him that Sunil does not need to know and he is sensitive don't tell him and he told me since 2017 that an young white guy was daily waiting at the company's gate and drops my wife after sundays. That is when I asked my father and he said once he and my kid while travelling on the scooter in moua ali area he also once saw a young white guy with my wife and before even him asking her, she told my father that that guy was a colleague at her company. Now she does not want to go back to Hyderabad. Here it's very nice.
The high court standing counsel for police also told that my wife used to take my little kid with her to those farmhouses and give my kid a ice cream or big box of chocolates and turn on the big screen TV and they both will go into a bedroom and does not come out even after 5 hours.
Now today morning I asked my father some money and my wife came into the middle and said that I am 46 years and should not ask for money for computers and while I was talking with my mother she hit me like a boxer on my head and then I shouted about what she did before. She is saying that I can go to my house in my native place and if I want to take the kid also, I am permitted. Now she is living a respectable life as an officer and the neighbor lady is her assistant in the office. If I shout like this she will not listen to her and she is telling everything to others in the office.
Because of this TEs brothers who gave me a suggestion for my problem in October now I am able to live without getting fear. I was taking Solian tablets since 2022 and stopped them oct,24 and since then I had no fear and anxiety. I also read in one American journal that Solian side effects are fear, anxiety. My DNA report came in December,24 and it said that I don't and will ever get Schizophrenia in my life but I have bi polar disorder. But I took those tablets for a decade or more just because of my wife.
After my 1st marriage in 2009 just after 2 years my wife father built a 2 storey house and her sister also built a new house In Gudur. Before it was a pakka house in the village and rented house for her sister.
Me or those 2 bastards all are only son of their parents with no sisters or brothers. My or their entire properties will rest with us.
My wife's father became a corepathi in 2016 when TDP came into power because FILs cousin was the MLA and he gave free hand in sand mining in nearby river. He simply earned 3 crores in 2 years. My wife took 50 lacs while she recommended to give her bava 2 crores. Remaining is with FIL.
In 2013-15, my wife's mama and cousin brother invited us to their house 2 times and both spoke like this to me, Babu since you are jobless we want to offer a job in one of our companies and I was feeling very happy. Even before I said yes, my wife told them that to help her sisters husband instead and there is no need to help me. They said to her that since her sisters husband is a govt teacher and me is jobless it's better for me but she kept on repeating to help her bava. They became angry and left the room. You know why they were insisting on getting me a job, because her own grandmother committed adultery and as a result her grandfather committed suicide and died. Maybe since they are rich they might have got information but I cannot confirm this.
Similarly on June,17th,2018 I drank pesticide mixed with Thumpsup and my parents joined me in KIMS and I was in Coma for 4 days and while I came out I was in Kamineni and my father said that all my wife's brothers uncle's came to see me in KIMS but she told the doctors that I was mentally unstable so I drank pesticide and got me shifted to Kamineni because KIMS is her company's default listed hospital. When police came from Nacharam she pleaded with my dad that if he tells police about adultery she might loose her govt job and might even be imprisoned and so when police came to our house my father told that I drank the pesticide accidentally that used to be used on house plants. But the police were insisting is this the whole truth sir or is there more than you are speaking? They were very suspicious and sat in our house for more than 2 hours.
