When you got married ?
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Marriage certainly seems more traditionally, religiously, and family driven in India than in the USA, but it also seems that many are very happy with their marriages young or otherwise. By the sounds of things, traditions are beginning to change a little and people are becoming a little more Westernized in their thinking. Do many of you have arranged marriages, I hope I am not prying, but I am curious.. it is such different way of life that you have there to us.
I was born Jewish by religion, but I am non-practicing .... however I think that the family values that are instilled with so many religions such as Muslims and Jews, are very good foundations for people to live their lives by, it is not uncommon in Judaism for marriage to be arranged between families in the more religious sects of Judaism.
The world has become such a different place than what our parents lived in ... let alone our Grandparent
I was born Jewish by religion, but I am non-practicing .... however I think that the family values that are instilled with so many religions such as Muslims and Jews, are very good foundations for people to live their lives by, it is not uncommon in Judaism for marriage to be arranged between families in the more religious sects of Judaism.
The world has become such a different place than what our parents lived in ... let alone our Grandparent
ReekingArchvile
Adept
Id rather buy an expensive car !
That sounds so foolish .. you need a partner for life ..that is what marriage is.
I am going on with my girl for more than 3 years now and I spend my complete salary on her, even though I love to splurge on my PC (sold all my precious hardware too .. no regrets) you know why because that one smile on her face gives me the most satisfaction, you cant compare your girl to a car... material stuff will give only temporary satisfaction ..
I don't intend to show off ... but that comment was just so #%^*&*.
abhisheksahas said:
Heh different ppl have different attitudes man; Chill;
Lotsa ppl love to enjoy the freedom as a bachelor/spinster; He must be one of them;
Mohit said:
Lol; :lol:
Some girls like their guys spending on them Mohit; I've seen lotsa instances from my collg life;
Weekends are meant for emptying the guys' pockets;
Heh, they get the returns paid as well, thats another part; hope u got what i meant!!
Marriages, whether they are arranged or not are about making compromises. No two human can perfectly complement each other. The more successful marriages are the ones where the amount of compromises and the comfort level of the same are maintained. If you'd really love your partner you would end up want to make those compromises happily AND she would be more willing to make a few compromises so that you dont have to make them (it sounds confusing when i read it again !!)
But at the end of the day, whether its arranged or otherwise, marriages are one of the best social commitment forced on us by our ancestors. I got married when I was 27 (arranged) and cannot be happier (except maybe an expensive car, a six pack and a killer HTPC setup )
My 2 cents !
But at the end of the day, whether its arranged or otherwise, marriages are one of the best social commitment forced on us by our ancestors. I got married when I was 27 (arranged) and cannot be happier (except maybe an expensive car, a six pack and a killer HTPC setup
)My 2 cents !
greenhorn
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yes , arranged marriages are a reality. But so is falling in love after it. A lot of people are just shy, or restrained because of social pressures to go seeking for their ideal matches ( And i confess I'm one of them :ashamed , for them, the arranged thingy often works out better.Either way, arranged != meeting for the first time the day of the marriage. At least here, before an 'arranged marriage' happens , you get a few dates with your fiance(e), and then , at there is this one month pre marital workshop by the church where they put you through the paces , and you have to pass , before they marry you
Dunno how it is elsewhere :ashamed:
, for them, the arranged thingy often works out better.Either way, arranged != meeting for the first time the day of the marriage. At least here, before an 'arranged marriage' happens , you get a few dates with your fiance(e), and then , at there is this one month pre marital workshop by the church where they put you through the paces , and you have to pass , before they marry you Dunno how it is elsewhere :ashamed:
ubergeek said:
actually it is but not necessary that life partner is the person you are married to...becoz at one point of time in your life you feel that you are deserted and left alone even though your friends and relatives dont do it actually. Only a life partner will be able to help you at that time....
ubergeek said:
he can...but should be able to face the world alone in all the cases....irrespective of joy or sad......Life is the toughest game you will ever play. If you have the option of Ko-op mode then the chances of winning/loosing are in different level.
ubergeek said:
strongly depends on the situation of your life and surroundings and the age.....difficult to generalize the question and the comment
As Kumar suggested "Marriage is something like college. You don't know its value untill you miss it."
some more from my side
Life is a challenge, meet it!
Life is a dream, pursue it!
Life is a game, play it!
Life is Love, enjoy it!
dont want to mention the name of the person who told this as it will start another discussion which i dont intend to
abhaybhegde
Adept
I wont marry in my life, would like to remain single.
"Man is born free , but tied with chains"...not in my case :clap:
"Man is born free , but tied with chains"...not in my case :clap:
greenhorn said:yes , arranged marriages are a reality. But so is falling in love after it. A lot of people are just shy, or restrained because of social pressures to go seeking for their ideal matches ( And i confess I'm one of them :ashamed
Dunno how it is elsewhere :ashamed:
In that case ,you are very lucky. Most people dont meet for the first time at the altar nowadays, but no one bothers with the pre-marital workshop or whatever. Christians generally are a more broad minded lot.
The problem is, even if the girl has a problem with the boy, in most cases she has almost no chance of telling the truth and getting out of it. This is changing in cities like B'lore, Bombay, Madras, etc... but that too only in the middle class.
The problem is people in the name of being orthodox and traditional are actually being narrow minded and jackasses.